Amara7777

When I say treated like a queen I mean cared for and put first. He always does it and he always motivates me and supports me. He’s my best friend, in fact we started as friends before getting into a relationship. We feel like we have a special bond even though we’re so different at first glance. We can both be ourselves. This is why I can’t just throw our relationship away. I understand what you mean. I have tried to help him with his depression by suggesting various techniques he can do to shift his mindset. I just want to show him a different perspective on life as he’s been beaten up by it… and suffers because of his health condition.

Yes, he claims he feels so exhausted and hates that feeling his condition gives him so he needs to relax - and only alcohol gives him that feeling. He also claims he knows the alcohol is tricking him into feeling that way but says he hasn’t found another thing that can help him forget about his condition for a few hours at night.

When I say baggage, I’m talking about his depression and negative feelings about his health condition. He says it makes him feel so tired and beaten up all day long and needs something to relax at night so he drinks. He doesn’t get drunk and there hasn’t been any problems so far related to his drinking. The only thing is my concerns when I found that bottle and assumed he could be drinking at other times as well. I confronted him about it and he says he understands my concerns but he doesn’t think he’s an alcoholic and he doesn’t think he has a problem. He said I speak as if this is a huge issue and now he feels like he has to deal with two - his health condition and his drinking.

Yes, he works. We live in a place where you can easily walk to supermarkets and shops.

I don’t know what to do because I love him truly. And he loves me. We have a great relationship to be honest. He motivates me to become better, he supports my dreams, he’s there for me, he treats me like a queen. It’s just his baggage and now this - it’s so hard for me because I don’t want this to be over but I’m afraid of what could happen in the future. I don’t know how to help him. I don’t want to lose myself either.

We’ve been together for a few months. Yes, I’ll stay alert. Thank you for the advice!

He’s been diagnosed years ago. He doesn’t require to be under the constant care of a doctor. Just yearly appointments.

Thank you for the advice!

No, he isn’t.

He doesn’t take medication and doesn’t drive.

He drinks a bit but he doesn’t get drunk. My concern was whether he drinks more or during the day when I’m not watching. He denied but I saw a bottle of liquor disappear over a week.

We’ve been together for a few months now. He doesn’t do therapy no. He works from home. The drinking hasn’t presented issues so far, it’s just my worry that it could become worse especially if he hides from me. Thank you.

Hello. My boyfriend (33) has a muscle wasting condition so he’s naturally stressed and feeling bad about it and says he needs a drink every night to relax and not think about it. He doesn’t drink much around me, or gets drunk or changed behaviour. But I found a liquor bottle in his cupboard and small liquor bottles he carries in his jacket or backpack which makes me think he drinks more than he shows me. I confronted him about it and he got upset and defensive, saying I’m calling him a raging alcoholic. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much. He’s very sweet and caring, he loves me and puts me first always. It’s just his baggage and now this issue that makes me doubt whether he’s being honest. I don’t know what I can do to help him or resolve this. Please give me advice! Thank you