TheCrow

Alex, I for one am actually in awe of what you've achieved by age 30. Am not going to even go into what my life was like at that age. As my ex-MIL used to say, let them get on with it. Live your life the way you see fit and vent away online when you feel like it. You don't owe anyone here or on any other forum anything in the slightest. Keep doing your best- that's good enough.

Thank you.

Thank you.

'..And my father, who is a very work savvy man thinks I need to leave as soon as possible when I get my next gig. He thinks a few things: 1. He thinks she's using me unfairly. He thinks she's using me for high quality, high level work for bad pay. And then throws in some easy tasks like cleaning to dumb down the job and justify the pay. 2. He thinks she hasn't been honest. She told me 20 hours a week upon hiring. Some weeks I struggle to get 10 with her cutting me short a lot. 3. My father thinks she'll blame me for her business not doing well and that I'm a great scapegoat and person to blame. 4. My father thinks it might ruin my reputation to stay with my name as the Manager if her business does fail. My dad is a smart guy who has been through the ringer with work himself his whole life. I trust what my dad has to say and I agree with him' Alex, The only advise I can give you is to listen to you dad. Please don't let 'advice' from a bunch of judgemental strangers on the net who don't know you from Adam and don't give a monkeys if you live or die affect you in a negative way. Please don't feel that you have to justify and defend what you post or how you choose to live your personal or work life. Instead, listen to your dad who DOES know you and love you and has your best interests at heart. The job's sucking the life out of you and needs to go but you know this of course. You can do a lot better. All the best to you.

Riccardo Fogli.. 1982.. unbelievably stunning man, then and now, and one of a kind singer. .❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 Disperato che farai ora sei da solo. Sempre pronto a giocar duro spalle al muro ma che anima hai. Disperato com'è stato che stavolta muori proprio tu per il gusto di aver tutto quanti amici hai distrutto Disperato dov'è andato quel coraggio che avevi in più Grande l'amore che non vedevi per non smentirti tu ne ridevi lei l'unica donna che in cambio non ti ha chiesto nulla e tu disperato hai detto: "è un gioco in più". Disperato ora sai qual è il giorno da scegliere per spaccare la tua vita ecco è già finita anche per te Grande l'amore che non vedevi lei non s'è persa come credevi; per l'unica donna che in cambio non ti ha chiesto nulla sei solo un disperato, un disperato in più.

I've always found the 'we met at 16, been together 30 years, I've never wanted anyone else' set ups bewildering. Wanting to experiment sexually when young is not just natural, it's biology-driven. OP is nowhere near ready to settle down with one man for the rest of her life. There is nothing wrong with either her or him. She just needs to live her life, explore, experience, sample, learn and grow, And then find her forever man.

This thread isn't about kids and what they say to each other at school? I was very beautiful when young and stared and wolf-whistled at wherever I went. I had it all. Hot, gorgeous, stunning, beautiful etc etc. I found it very flattering. It was an ego boost. Fun times. Youth and beauty. All that was many years ago. I am still very beautiful to my husband. He tells me every day. Talking about grown up world, If a man approached me with 'you seem very nice'... I'd frankly be rather insulted. Most certainly prefer 'absolutely beautiful' to 'very nice'. To each their own.

He does want to be back into Cynder's ife to some extent at least - he's made this very clear. He's not being pushy either, I don't think. It's up to her what she chooses to do. Be casual friends. Fellow vendors at festivals. Or potentially, should things really change with him, partners again.

And heaven rest her soul..........

Sorry girl. What he meant was, 'I'm not into you and I don't want to date you'; he couldn't have been more clear... What you should do next is nothing at all. Leave him be. You sound very young to me. Get your mates together - it being Xmas and all. Get all dressed up, go out, have a drink, have fun, chat to people...you'll meet your man soon enough. When you do.. you won't have to ask strangers on message boards what his behaviour meant. Trust me on this.

Absolutely.

Fully agree with Rainbow and Tiny. We're not talking about a 5 y old who'd be happy with 'because I said so'. Also - yes, we do need context but - don't get the whole 'it's just some dude your gran's been dating for a while'. My lord, the woman left a marriage of 40 years and risked estrangement from her children. It's been two years, not two months. She's not 'just dating' him. I don't see any significance in the whole 'engaged to be married' nonsense. Neither do I care how their relationship started. What matters is what's happening now. Oh well, OP's left the building so it's all a moot point anyway.

Ha.. my 'back in the day' was 1988..when it was: 1 - call on landline 2- knock at door 3-write a letter, on paper, with a pen...

At the end of the day, it's all about finding yourself in the right place at the right time.. next to the right person, physically or digitally. Which won't happen on a break from dating.

Alex could spend all of next year volunteering at soup kitchens and community theatres whilst at the same time analysing, introspecting and 'getting to the bottom of'. Or she could give herself a few weeks, dust herself down and see what else is out there. There is an option many seem to have omitted in their responses - Alex might just meet a decent man who will fall in love with her and want a long term relationship with her just as she is, warts and all, both as a woman and as a person. Without self-help books, therapy and making herself into something she is not. And the feeling could be mutual. If we all waited to become all around perfect and 'healthy' - with self-love spewing out of our every pore - before venturing out to look for a partner.. the word would soon become extinct.

That he even responded to 'how are you' is an awful lot more than I would do in his position. Disrespectful?? He?? How about dozens and dozens of posts humiliating, belittling, berating, insulting, degrading, dismissing, lecturing etc etc HIM - carefully and cleverly disguised as 'helpful advise'?? Just.. unreal.

Alex, What do you mean by fat, if I may ask? Size 14, or 'my 600 pound life'? Or something in-between? Fat means such vastly different things to different people.

Sorry to highjack the thread everyone, just very curious: Bolt, are you married? Or single? You keep referring to 'my husband' but then your posts read like you are single? Am just curious for some reason! Sorry everyone!

Dude Don't be tedious. Verify?? 'smh' Just come out and say what you want to. 'Hey, you're gorgeous and I'd do anything for a chance to take you out: yes, no or maybe??' Million years ago when my husband and I met in this alt club..spent a few hours dancing and talking and then, towards the end of the night, he sits himself next to me and says, arrogantly: well listen girl, I give good head, hit me up okay? To which I said, YOU SO absolutely disgust me you vile vile "swear word", ehm, what was that number again? Have to sadly say though..he was/is a stunner looks wise and UGH is of course 6.2. You need to try and present yourself in a very VERY confident way. You need to just say to yourself, f it, I'll get what I want. Sorry I can't help more..

D, I'm into long haired men. I'm not going to tell you to join clubs, learn how to be confident or change your wardrobe. Can I see a picture?

You simply didn't fancy her. And weren't in love. Sorry man but it's as simple as this..what you do next is up to you but trust me on this: do not ever settle..

Or one could just say, in place of three trillion words: hell yeah dude, ain't I one lucky girl!!

Here's my advice before reading the rest of the thread: consider yourself lucky and count your blessings!

No-one gets it and no-one ever will, won't bother explaining what it's like, being a twin. OP- not giving you any useful advice cause of the whole twin thing, sorry. .