Hi everyone. Thank you for reading my post.
I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 2 years this spring. Things seem to be going great. I love him immensely, and things keep getting better all of the time. The thing is when I met him I messaged him on Facebook and asked if we could meet up and get to know each other better. He 'claimed' that he had just broken up with another girl 3 hours before he received my message and what a coincidence this Is and etc. etc.
She still talks to him directly and through their mutual friends. Tomorrow is her birthday and out two year anniversary is coming up and I just want to get on a plane and run far far away from here. Someone I have a professional relationship with gave me a referral for a job in Perth, Australia. I live in the USA.
The problem, is that I think she is his mistress. I can't handle him having a consort. Its just too much depression and he seems to always put me on a holding pattern. LIKE ITS BEEN 2 years and I LOVE HIM. but I want to run away. almost everyday.
I can't take the pain of knowing he has a relationship with another woman, I don't have proof he claims he doesn't cheat but then he shows me her texts and I think she decorated his apartment and so on and so forth, this sucks.
I mean is he using me??? I swear there have been times when I get the feeling that when Im not home she is over here with him. We don't live together, he has a key to my apartment.
IS he using me and plans to end his life with this other woman? I looked up her name on Facebook and saw some weird things about traveling out WEST. He mentioned to me he wanted to travel west. He has also said he wants to marry me. Does he imagine a life with a wife and mistress. Are all men like this.
but he denies it. He denies EVERYTHING. Does this mean I have gone completely mad? Why do I have such low self-esteem and confidence. I mean this guy is the man of my dreams. He's handsome, physically well built. Works hard. although everyone that he knows is in survival mode right now including me and my family and friends all seem more like living their best life. Im getting sucked into his group of friends.
the bottom line I want to run away and hope he comes with me because his friends are creepy and I don't want him to have a mistress , but I think a full proof plan would be to run away somewhere where I would be completely content by myself. as it is though its not really safe for women to travel alone and stuff, my family is here as much as I can I feel safe here but his friends don't make me feel safe, and he makes me feel like he's hiding big secrets.
Im doomed.