This girl who I've known for a long time, we started taking a while back. She was going through a nasty breakup with the guy she has a child with and had several issues because of that (trust, ect) which is to be expected based on how this dude is. So her and I ended up getting closer and decided to give a relationship a shot, however shortly thereafter she decided it would be easier to go back to her ex (they do have a kid together) since he was making things so difficult on her. So her and I parted ways on good terms.
9 months later, she has finally had enough and left the dude again a few months ago. They are working on their coparenting but their relationship is dead and gone. I'm really good friends with both her mother and we have several mutual friends, all of which are encouraging me to try to resume a relationship with her.
That to say, taking everything into account, our friends...her mom, mutual feelings..I have decided to try and pursue this relationship again except on SLOW terms.
What I need help with. I want to send her something on valentines day that just lets her know that she was always special to me and that I want to resume things with her, but no rushing as I want to do this together with her.
My plan is to either go small and write a letter along with flowers and invite her to dinner later that week. OR go big and have the kids at her kindergarten class help me by giving her several cards (each card would have a small section of what I want to tell her) and the very last card I'll come around the corner with flowers and tell her how I've always felt and go from there.
SO....do I go small...or do I go big?
