As I write this I am solely looking after our 7 month old baby whilst my partner is away with his friends for over a week. His friend is wealthy and paid for a once in a life time trip for him that I didn’t want him to miss but at the time I agreed to this my partner said he would book us a nice holiday which hasn’t happened. This is due to the fact I’m pregnant again and therefore we need to save all the money we can! However, I’m feeling very bitter that I am suffering bad sickness due to pregnancy and looking after our baby on my own whilst he is away with no holidays to look forward to.
My partner also mentioned a stag do that he wanted to go on next month (it’s my cousins so I felt I couldn’t say no) he didn’t tell me he had booked it or say official dates. However I’ve just seen that he has paid for flights for him and my 2 brother in laws to go for 3 nights without consulting me. To make matters worse it’s the week I return to work (I’ll be almost 5 months pregnant then!) and will once again be looking after our little one alone.
is he selfish? Should he consult me? I really wish he would book a nice break for me as I could really do with a night or two away.
apart from this he is a great dad and works hard. He has said he won’t be able to have time off for scans for new baby and only took 4 days off work when our daughter was born last year. I try to understand then get annoyed that he is able to take time off for holidays for himself.
I’ve been through a lot. A really hard first pregnancy, traumatic birth and now struggling with pregnancy again and I just wish he would make me feel special and book something nice for me to do. It’s not fair that he gets all the trips and the breaks and I’m struggling every day 😢.
am I being unreasonable?