We’ve been together for 8 years now and we’re getting married in July. We have two children, age 6.5 and 18 months. My partner has very little interest in sex, it can happen once every month and if I didn’t initiate it, nothing would happen. We’re so incompatible on that front but it’s so important to me I don’t know what to do?!
we have two children together, and we’re so happy as a family. But I feel so rejected and undesirable to her. She knows all of this, we rarely argue but when we do I make my feelings clear that I struggle to feel a connection/spark in a relationship that feels like a good friendship.
She loves me more than anything, I know that. She just had a very low sex drive. She’s tried sex counselling and it helped a bit for a short time. She has a stressful job, works crazy hours (she’s a teacher) so during term time sex is a no-go. We both work full time, so after sorting the kids we’re very tired every day.
I don’t know what else I can do. I want to be a happy family, I’m trying so hard, but the rejection and the lack of intimacy is so hard for me. I find myself wondering if I’d be happier in another relationship with someone more intimate but love her, and I couldn’t imagine not being with my kids. Help!
