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HI there This may up set some people but so be it. What your girlfriend has done is consider cheating. Cheating doesnt have to be sex, kissing ect.... She broke trust and boundaries that truely build a relationship and once those are gone so is the relationship. And i am sorry you are going through this and should not be. She should be grown woman and be by her self until she knows what she wants in life rather then drag peoples heart around. Wish you the best

Love please let me tell you that you are way to precious to be putting your sel fthrough this crap. And you and only you uar eallowing this to keep happening. First and for most you need to tell him that you know an dyou also need to tell himto get his crap and get the hell out. You rigjt now are living as a single parent and aere doing it all along as it is, so why keep the extra baggage, at this point in your life you have no need for him, you clean, cook, take care of kids, work, pay all the bills while he uses you and feeds you lines of bull crap just to keep you hooked so you dont leave. Him juping all over you cause your on your phone is because he knows he is doing this wrong and thats his concirnce getting to him. A cheater will blame you while they are doing the cheating, on top of the lies and BS crap of how your beautiful and only wants you mean while he is tellign everyother woman is with the same crap and sleeping with them then coming back to you. Come on queen you have to now you are worth so much more then that. Why are you allowing a nasty dog to do that to you. Who care syou have kids, you stay witrh someone that is that maniputlative just becaue you have kids. Do you want them grwoing up thining that show their mother should be treeated and dont no if they are boys or girls. BUt if boys they see their dad doing that crap and they think thats how they should treat woman and kids when they have them or for gilrs to think its okay for man to treat them the same way. You have got to want better for your self and the kids. Get rid of the trash and you an dthe kids will be so much happier. I promise i have been there and love the new me. wish you luck

sadly there are way to many lies for you to be aboe to get over it would always be in the back of your head. So very choice asking him to leave, You seem to have your head on right and moving in the right places, dont down grade your self for someone who is a mess. There will be someone diy that will see all the good you have to offer and would never think about lying to or braking trust. Keep doing great and your awesomme for not settleing for someone like that

you most certainly can get PTSD from any thing it doesnt just have to be from being in the armed forces by any means. PTSD comes from alot of things and i didnt know this until i left a bad marriage and eneded up going to counceling and they are the ones who pointed out that i have PTSD from years of many bad things in my ex marriage but any ways have you tried talkng to him about the conerns you are having? What did you like about the time alone?

It sounds like this is int gonna work for you. You almost come across as if you want your cake and it eat to ou tline. And that is absolutly fine reach for the stars if thats what you want to do. But you may not always fine all 101 things that your looking for in a woman. It doesnt seem like you two ever had a fireword stage and that is also rare. If your not feeling anything for her and only accept her comany when your time is open. Doesnt seem fare to her and i would be highly open with her. Maybe you two can remain friends but this doesnt seem like the right relationship for you and that is okay. You would be off being single lthen always wondering if you settle because you didnt want to be alone. And then beat yourself up later. And making her feel unwanted and you being standoffish is not fare to her as well. And FYI you dont always have to same the interest to spend time together. My boyfriend have a some what big age gap so are interest are not the same at time and some times they are but even when we are together but both are doing different things we are still spending together, we are sharing are company with one another and then we will talk to eachother about what we are doing and that keeps the connection there. And yes it could still beway to early to know this for sure. You two are still just getting to know eachother and open to one another, Im sure yu guys havent reached the point were you two can be your full self around one another. You maybe over thinking and now that it is stuck your head you cant unthink it type thing. But i truely think you r best thing to do is talk to her about it, you said your communication is great so go for it, who knows she maybe thinking the same thing as you and doesnt know to react on it. good look with every thing

this was some what sad ro read but this is the world we live in where others use others for convenience. And that is what she is doing my friend souly just using you at the time being. She knows when she calls you are going to pick up and be there for what ever she may need at that time. She is way to immature and isnt ready for commit to anything. You kinda need to cut ties with this one for your own mental well being.

I feel you did the right thing by not staying with him. People with childern are a complete package deal, its not one or the other, so you would have to love all of him and that mean sthe child as well. So telling him how you feel was the right thing to do. And not for nothing as parents with kids and arent with the kids other parent are some what use to the fact that not ever one could play step parent role and end up ending relationships do to that. But by all means stay in contact and be friends but dont take it any further unless you can like her as much as him.

Hi there This behavor seems very off to me and too you as well. It maybe sounds like he maybe be in a relationship with someone else, I am not trying to jumo to anything just what it sounds like. Are you 100% he doesnt have a girlfriend? Have you tried to call him on his normal number? If not i would start there and if he answers I would flat out ask him what the deal is. If he doesnt answer the call I would give it a couple of days and if he doesnt return the call I would remove him from your life.

i believe you could make accommodations for her to still be apart of the family since that is all she has and you didnt split on bad terms. And not for nothing it would be really healthy for the KIDS to see you all still doing things together. As if its not confusing enough for them to see their parents still living together but not together with other partners under the same roof dont confuse them any more then they are. And at the end of the day its your childern you need to make happy not your girlfriend. And if your girlfrind and wife are living under the same roof now they must get along some what so why would it hurt your girlfriend to have your wife at family gathers bunless she is jealous or worried that your wife will still take to wife more her. You do have your self in one big pickle jam my friend. Do the right thing for kids no one else.

so there are so many signs that come with ADHD and it could very from person to person. Like i said ,y boyfriend has it really bad and I also have it and have had it since i could recall. BUt with him he forgets stuff daily myself i have learned to drill things into my head so i dont for get them. But maybe sit down with him and go online there are check list you can use to breakdown his signs and if you both feel its something he may have he could always go talk to someone. I wish you both the best.

Hi there hope all is well. So coming from a very Similar Situation i was married for a with my husband for a 11 years have been apart for over year. I wasnt looking but kinda happened thing. And before i knew i was dating this amazing guy i am 36 and he is 25. I will tell you he is the best guy i have ever met. We got some *** from people at first but we laughed it off. But we are truly happy and just adore one another. So if you guys are truly happy nothing else matters. Let people look, let them talk and smile as they do cause you know what they say isnt going to impact they happiness you to bring together. Go ahead with your bas self momma. wish you all the best

well maybe i misunderstood soem of what he said. But i guess maybe he could wait around for her to change her mind and heart be okay with hearing all that stuff or if it got to that point of her leaning on him for other relationship advice he would need to walk away from that all around his feeling were to deep. if all that makes since lol

Ok yes thank you i also did some deep research after replying to you. It looks like this may be a long road ahead of me. And i guess i better get a seat belt lol And unfortunately i make more then him but pay more in bills where i have moved to. And he has no retirment funds or anything he choice not to work much through or marriage while at times i worked 2 jobs (stupid me) Maybe he knew what he was doing all along and i was just blind 🫢 Thank you for also lokking into that for me

we are pass the the 10 year mark FML lol. good thing i dont have a pension and i used most of my retirment to move out and start over. The effect of just giving him everything wasnt in hopes he would leave me alone i knew that wasnt gonna happen hes crazy. I gave him everything to save my mental health but i knew a couch and tv could be replaced. I already live by the bare minium as it is. The cost of living in ny is crazy so going through crap you really dont have extra money for the high life lol. And i hope all worked out with you and divorce an dthank you for the advice.

So we are here in ny and in ny it is a no fault state. And alimony but they call it maintanance here. It is really hard to get in ny i believe you have to make around or over 100k a year and have so much in 401k and saving which he has none of them. And with the stay away order he still gets to see our son. But on his days our son takes the bus to his place and my days i pick him up from school and no weekend exchanges. And its sad i dont even want half of the house i just want my since of piece back. lol

Thank you so much for the advice. That is some more stuff i can look into and good thing i was made with a little extra patience.

Okay to me she sounds like she may confused on her feeelings. And as she has been hurt before is going to be stand offish cause of not wanting to be hurt again and no blame there cause that crap sucks. But if you like that much you will take it slow for her and remain friends to let her know your there and arent going any where but at the same time do not shut your self off completely to any one else that may see more in you. So i guess what im saying dont stop living your life because she unsure of her feelings.

Thank you very much I am absolutley gonna look in the paralegal stuff.

Thank you for the advice. So the courts here are putting the stay away order in a family a fence case along with custody and said i would have to keep the divorce separate. And yes i literally dont want to fight over any thing with him. The only things left at the house is my departed dads stuff that he is holding and wont let me have. So yes its very much about control with him and always has been.

HI all let me start by saying you guys are wonderful. So long story made short. I have been away from my husband now for about 2 years. It was a hard marriage of 9 years. Since then i have started to date someone and he is wonderful an dsaving grace may i say. I told my self when i left my husband i would never date again or anything then this wonderful person came along. But at the end of the day i am still legally married and it ways on my shoulders all the time. It wasnt a good a marriage and i have a full stay away order on said husband. I have tried to file for divorce and i am told i need a lawyer and as we all know they are not cheap. I called legal aid in hopes they could help and they said the could not help me due to the fact that they represented my husband in the past. And it would conflict of interest err I feel stuck and I feel like i cant have full healthy relationship with new botfriend and move foward completely with this waying on me. He knows the whole situation and is completely understanding of everything. And please i dont need to hear i shouldnt of started a new relationship without getting fully divorced. it wasnt planned just something that happened and i dont regret it not one bit. Does any one know of any other way i might be able to get legal help, i tryied doing uncontested divorce but said husband wants to fight over everything and let me say i have gave him everything, the house and eveythign with it, atvs and camper i left with personal items and half of kids belongings so not sure what eh wants to fight over, and he will not file although he can get the legal help. I feel like its another way of him beign able to control thing. Help please

Hi there again. I am so happy you went to talk to some one on your own issues. So my boyfriend has the same issue he cant rememeber nothing to save his life and some things he does remember i say but you can recall this omg lol. So my boyfriend has ADHD pretty bad an di know that is a big cause of his forgetfulness, not sure if your boyfriend has ADHD or not but if so thta could play a really big roll in it. Also most men do forget things and i dont think hey do it intentionally. And or he could have thought it was personal and didnt want to over step. But you may want to bring it to him and say maybe something along the lines of this is really important to me and it would mean alot to me if you could show some interest in it, cause your input means alot to me. Also my boyfriend I use google calendar and one of us have a important thing we wat the other to remember we share the day with one another. And his whole family does it with him cause how bad his memory is lol. its worth giving it a try. wish you the best.

Hi i hope all is well with you. I wanted to take aminte and say i came across your post and wanted to say i am proud of you for taking steps in the right direction, My dad also passed away 2 years ago so i can connect with you on that. I feel drinking would just cover up what ever pain your feeling in side and when you wake up ir sobor up it will still there with you deal with so you stopping and talking to your therapist is awesome. And i know you said you were not sold on your therapist, is there somethng about he or she you just dont click with? I will be honest i have gone through 3 of them until i found the one i am with now. It is very important to feel a bond with he or she to truely open up to them. so please keep that in mind changing to a new may not be so bad. hope this helps you a little and all is well.

first off i would like to say i want to say i dont know nothing about lesbian dating but i did come across your post and wanted to say i am super proud of you for taking the time for your self, not to many people do that and end dragging truma from one relationship to the next. i feel from reading what you said that the right woman will come across and see your worth and be truly lucky to have love her. but once again i really proud of you and wish you the best.

Girl you need to forget this guy, he did you a favor by showing you his true colors. You have done nothing and I mean nothing wrong. He was the one who cheated us cheated. Having a sexual conversation with the opposite sex while in a relationship is considered cheating. From what it sounds like he is a Narcissist and you need to run from him. He was looking for away of with out being a man about it. You deserve better and should want better for yourself. Take the time and work on you and the right man will come along. Don't ever lower yourself to bring someone else up if it doesn't bother them watching you while you are down. Good luck love

First thing first please know your worth and you deserve way better then that. Secondly I feel that is considered cheating and is not OK. It's not OK comparing you to another woman is not okay he holds on to pictures of her Anne mostly is not okay he uses her picture for sexual pleasure. And breaking up and getting back together 5 times is well rough. A ex is usually a ex for reason and that's where they should stay and from what you have said about him he doesn't seem like a very good guy. You could most definitely find a man that is gonna love you and all of, and not compare you to another woman. Some man is waiting to wars the ground you walk on so don't sell your self short for some half as* man that all acts like a boy. Do your self a favor a leave him and find your self a real man that is just gonna adore your beautiful self. Wish you the best