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hey jason i've been reading a few of the posts and first let me say I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! I do agree with you and i also believe that when people come to this forum most do so with a broken heart and raging emotions and anger and they come to seek a helping hand or a encouraging comment and even a wise word here and there, thereforeee i believe that people should choose thier words very careful when responding to post....i do believe you responded very well and accurate to thorn considering your situation and emotions, i also think that no matter how many times you feel to ramble on and on about your ec you should feel FREE do so , that is the center of your heartache and pain so it's almost impossible to get over pain without reliving the source of it overall, stay strong and stay focused and maybe you can post more often and let us know how the classes are going...im so proud of you ..stay positive and stay calm...keep in touch

wow that is very touching i cant help but ask where did this theme come from

good luck and i know at times it may seem hard but im 3 days deep into it...and its very hard but good luck and maybe you should post in healing after breakups and divorce

i hope each day gets better for you

wow im so sorry your hurting so bad .,your post makes me feel so sad i really wish i had some sound prood advice but im going thru the same thing and the best advice i can give is to just wait it out it does get better

leave just leave dont say anything dont even confront him..walk away with your head high and just leave

patience..im currently going thru the exact same thing and yeah it is very very hard and the one thing that hurts the most is thinking about it..i cant seem to shake it myself it's very hard to not think about whats going on but i guess it gets easier everyday .....life does go on because i felt like death yesterday but im still here today and that says something......im miserable in life at this moment...i am still in love and until i fall out of love with him and back in love with myself it's going to hurt so im doing any and everything i can to love myself..little things that make me feel good i dont know if it'll work but anything is worth a try at least once

omg I feel that exact same way when it comes to my now ex (he dumped me yesterday) I really feel that way but the more i read the post and responds to my thread i start to feel like it's okay to let go....although i dont know whats to come i honestly look forward to being on the board in a week typing about how im doing as far as not speaking to him...it's going to be ok im feeling a little positive now and as long as my enotalone family keeps the encouraging responses coming im going to beat this ...i wish in my situation we worked it out but im happy for you if your happy..

thats my biggest thing knowing my ex is with someone else and it wont leave my mind if u find out how to deal with it please share the secret

i will look for it thanks ...but what are some of the examples

I agree with you rickster I am currently doing n/c with my exbut im not ignoring his calls i answer when he call i reply when he text i just dont initiate conversation myself ..we have nice funny conversations which lead to nothing ...no more yelling no more fussing and he slips up sometimes and say he wants to make things betterand he's amazed athow i can still be there for him after he hurt me so much . yeah it sounds crazy but maybe i will do complete n/c if it hurt me to talk to him but it doesnt and im enjoying it the way it is and i want to kep it this way ....great adice rick...i agree

Yes Jason you hae the entire enotalone community here for you, to talk to you through your sleepless nights and long days. We are here for you..please remember that in your time of need

That's exactly what im going through at this very moment....nothing seems to keep my attention for too long without it drifting back to my ex...its very very hard all i can say is we can just try to focus even more ....and what i usually do is think of something that he did to make me upset and once i get upset i usually stop thinking about him for a while ..at least til im home

yeah them dreams were very uneasy for me but as far as the teeth dream i didnt feel pain in the dream no but in my life ..i went through a total hell i cried and cried and it hurt so bad so so bad i lost tons on weight and at the end of it all he came back only to do it again .now im officially starting my life over without him...he seems to want me to take care of him btu he still wants his freedom at the same time so im going to let him be as hard as it is and as far as the dream journal it sounds like a great idea..I love It!! i'll start today

I was reading this section and would like to share these two dreams that have been bothering me for a while now and hopefully someone can tell me what they think of it .....the first dream i had i was walking down the street with my cousin and out of no where my teeth just started falling out of my mouth one by one at first and then by the multiples and all i could do was catch them at first i tried to concel it from my cousin who was walking aside me then it got to the point where i could no longer hide it. i was so scared i woke up crying. my cousin told me that it meant that i was losing my grip on life and i needed to get things together and that things were about to start falling apart for me ...and it made since because at that time i was having problems with my boyfriend and not too long after that we broke up........the second dream was in refrence to a situation i had with my now ex....he kept cheating on me with this particular girl and we would always work it out but at the time of this dream me and him was well together anyway he knocks on my home door with the girl and another female and the 3 of them just stand there staring at meand not saying a word ...then after about 5 minutes he startes to hold her hand and kiss her and tell her thathe loves her and evrything right in front of me ..and if im correct i remember her sayign something to the nature of i just wanted to see u ...he was holding her hand in fornt of me and everything and ever sincethen me and him just started to fall apart over ths same girl not only did he see her again but he actually told me about and left me with the option of staying or leaveing...although im currently dealing with it on a emotional level...i left but what do you guys think of these dreams.......wait and another thing my ex told me thathe had a dream that some one was chasing him around his house shooting at him with a gun and he kept running and right before he couldnt run anymore and the person stood before him ready to shoot i came out of no where and saved him and thats not the first dream he had like that he also had a dream about him drownin and i again came from no where and saved him...what do u think this means i always thought it meant im always there for him