Zen20

I know where you are coming from because I have dealt with a simmaler type of problem. Although my boyfriend told me about it and is trying to stop because he thinks that porn is only making his life more unhealthy psychologically. Still, he slips up now and then. I can almost understand his problem because we are waiting for marriage, and we don't have sex. I know that if we could that it would be less of a problem because I am a woman with a healthy appetite and an open mind. I know that he needs ways of release, and I agree that masturbation is healthy, for men especially. it's just the part of him looking up stuff on the net that bugs me, that he gets used to seeing those perfect photoshopped women and that I won't be able to compete. I have confidence in my self image, but I'm still not a photoshopped picture! Not to mention because of my religion I believe porn in general is wrong...but that's a different story. In my mind, if two people were married and had this problem, my solution would be to give my guy sexy pictures of me to look at, in lots of different costumes (birthday suit included, of course). Keeping things new and interesting in bed would also dim a guys need to look up stuff since one reason they do is because they crave something new to look at or do. Men are visual after all. In the situation of being only bf and gf, it's a bit more difficult. My advise is to really look things over in your relationship. If he lies to you about something, that's a good indication that he lies to you about a lot more things. If that bugs you, as well as his thing with porn, you should consider getting out of that relationship. He wont change for you if he thinks porn is something that's okay to do. If you really want to stay with him maybe you should have a frank talk with him. Tell him that his looking up porn hurts you, and explain your feelings. If he doesn't seem to mind that it hurts you when he does these things, then there is definetly something wrong. If porn is more important to him than having you, then leave him with his porn. besides, asking him to stop looking at boobies when he gets off isn't as if asking him to stop maturbateing all together. It doesn't always take a picture to get men turned on, it's not like porn is the on swhich for an erection. anyway, I tried, does any of it make sense? hope I helped in some way. Just remember that you are a beautiful and unique person, and there is no one like you out there. No matter what this guy makes you feel, it's always true.