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He is not generally a loud person, last night was odd behaviour for him but like I said, this is our second petty fight this week. He does get angered by what I consider silly things. I feel like it’s something else that’s bothering him but I don’t know what it is

I forgot to mention we do take turns cooking. We each have our nights. I don’t often like what he cooks wither but I appreciate the nights off. But yes you are right, he was very spoiled with food choices as a child. If he didn’t like what his parents were eating they got something he did like… this could be an option that we each cook for ourselves and take turns cooking for the rest of the family.

So last night I made dinner. It’s a traditional meal from my culture that I don’t get to make often because my partner says he hates it (he is from a different ethnic background). I told him I was craving it and he said I could make it as long as I put sausages and dumplings in it. I was too tired to make the dumplings and I forgot the sausages because they don’t typically go in this dish. Everyone loved dinner and complimented how great it was. Not my partner though. He first complained that there was no more watercress. I apologised and asked him to keep his voice down because his cousin and his niece had shown up and I offered them some food to and he was being really loud about it but he wouldn’t. Then he asked in a demanding tone why there were no dumplings and sausages in it. I told him I forgot the sausages and couldn’t be bothered with the dumplings. He said I forgot the sausages last time (when I made it for my dads birthday and had to make it in the biggest pot I’ve ever seen). He said that I was doing it on purpose. I told him that’s not the case. He was still upset and so I waited for him to calm down a bit. When I thought he was calm I tried to tell him that I’m upset about what happened and how he treated me over dinner. He laughed in my face when I told him this and I told him that I’m glad he found it funny because I wanted to cry. He defended his reactions and went back to being angry at me. We haven’t spoken since last night and I slept in my son’s bed. This is now the second pitiful fight we have had this week and I am drained by it.