Flyersfan0323

Yes, she wants to get engaged. That’s something we both talked about. She showed me rings that she wants. We have talked about all this. As far as making an effort to work by me, she has shown it. You know how time consuming filling out application after application after application is? As well as driving an hour to actually go to interview after interview? She had an opportunity to get a position by her, but she turned it down because she wants a job by me.

But what? There has to have been some feedback. They would give a reason why she wasn't selected. Is she flat out refusing to move unless and until she gets the job she wants? pretty much, but hey. She could change her mind. they would just say that the other person was more fit for the position.

And how does she feel about that? Maybe she has hesitation making a big move without the security of a serious commitment to a life together? So she wants to hedge her bets before moving by having that particular job? she said she understood where I was coming from.

As I said she made it to the final interview each time. They would say things like… we REALLY loved you and this decision was hard for us but….. I could get my own place, but it would still be long distance for us.

We talked about kids and marriage. She wants all those things. I told her that I didn’t want to get engaged until we got a place together.

she has applied and has had interviews in my area, so clearly she wants to move near me.

She does have her masters degree as well as her principal certification ( those two are needed to be a VP or AD) and to boltnrun...She doesn't wanna make a lateral move because if the school wants to start cutting jobs she would be the first to go sense she would be new. She also wants to make more money.

Its funny that you say that because her mother suggested that it may be best to make a lateral move then move up from there. Great minds think alike haha.

what makes you say that?

Well like I said, she is a high school teacher with 10 years of teaching experience and other qualifications too. She also coaches soccer and track at the school. She wants to move up to be a vice principal or athletic director at a high school or middle school.

She’s an English teacher. She wants to become a VP or athletic director. She doesn’t want to make a lateral move. She’s had about 6-8 interviews over the last year and has made it to the final round each time, but in the end they went with someone else.

you had a baby at 42? cuz that's something I was concerned about. Her being up there in age by the time she finds a job and us not being able to have kids.

My gf and I have been together for 3 years now. We do long distance. (we live an hour and 20 mins apart) She is someone that I'm considering marrying one day. After 3 years of dating and commuting to each other we decided that we want to get a place together. (we both live at home) The problem is that I'm in med school and with the new job I just got I can't move closer to her, so she would have to move closer to my area, which she doesn't mind doing because she wants to leave her job anyway. She has been applying for jobs for about a year now, but nothing has come up. My questions is should we just stick it out (long distance) until she gets a new job (who knows when that will be) or find a place where the commute to work works bout for both of us? The commute to work would be about an hour for both of us. we are both 34 and we want to get the ball rolling.....