Cl6ty

I see what you're saying and that is what i think I'm feeling 5 dates in. I'm just like where are we at now and where do we go, she has done nothing to show she wants to have sex and hearing all of these other people have sex so early i feel like something is wrong or this is a weird situation. And her initiating the sex would mean she truly likes me. I just find it so weird and awkward to randomly just start talking about those things

Is that not a weird topic to just randomly bring up and discuss? It just feels weird I guess. Like she doesnt do anything at all that would hint she wants to go further with that

Im actually not. All the dates i go on never get to that point. And thats the problem, what if she isn't ready for that and it's too soon for her, she gets turned off and runs away lol then what do i do

People are saying 5 dates is way long enough and then others are saying 5 dates is nothing idk what is right. I dont even know what to ask her to be honest, ive literally gone out with girls and as we are kissing they will put my hands on their body and the rest is history lol

I will give that a try appreciate it. Like i said a lot of people, both men and women, say they sleep with someone on the 1st - 3rd dates so i wasnt sure if this is like weird or what

She used to be in a 10 year long relationship so i feel shes just extra careful maybe after that. But its been 2 years since that. Yeah we cuddle and hold eachother when we are out, im just saying nothing further than that

I would do those things if i felt ANY kind of want from her to do that. I've been with girls, they will literally put your hand on their chest or something while making out if they want to have sex. She doesnt do anything really or talk about it at all

I just feel like when a man invites the girl over it gives off "oh just another guy that wants to get into my pants" type of vibe. It seems much more meaningful and real if the girl initiates that. Idk if me asking her to come over would chase her away if she isnt ready for it

Idk why its coming off as that. Im not saying i need the sex now. Im talking from a women's stand point do they care or not? Would i like to have sex with her, sure i would. Is it make or break for me? No i dont care either way doesnt change how i feel. But I've heard from some girls they will leave a guy if they arent having sex within a reasonable amount of time. Also idk what that means that she hasnt initiated or hinted towards anything sexual.

Yeah we go out once a weekend, we missed maybe 1 or 2 weekends

Well I'm going to bring it up this weekend and i really hope she doesn't get turned off and leave me over it

What if she doesn't want to talk about that now and it's too soon for her?

It's so hard to tell because she has given not a single hint towards anything sexual whether through talking on our dates or physical. We just kiss and that's it. Other girls ive gone out with 2 or 3 times they clearly will either say or act on it. I dont want to bring it up and feel like im pressuring her or just "trying to be another guy wanting to get into her pants" and ruin everything

Someone else has said she's waiting for me to initiate it because women feel weird about initiating something physical like that. Idk what to believe. That's another topic, at what point are we exclusive? It's been months

We see eachother every weekend and just text while we are at work lol idk who doesn't do that