sylvan33

Well stated! Thank you!

LOL okay

Good advice!

Sorry, I don't remember asking if he's attracted to me -- or rather I didn't mean for it to come across that way. I was inquiring to make sure our friendship was leading into something more, so I know if I should pull away a bit.

I don't have feelings for him romantically, I just really appreciate him as a friend. 🙂

I don't enjoy the attention or have feelings for him, he is just more friendly and attentive than my other male friends, in which I am not used to -- and wanted to double check that it IS in fact just friendly.

Thank you - I agree, I think, which is why I posted here in the first place. Something didn't sit right.

Thank you. I appreciate your feedback and response. I was wondering exactly what you said; is it skating the line? I am taking your advice to heart, for sure.

No… I value our friendship and don’t want to damage anything, which is why I wanted to make sure engaging isn’t going to hurt us or his relationship. I’m used to more superficial relationships with guys. It’s hard to tell his intentions.

This is all a good point. I honestly can’t decide if he’s just super friendly or flirty!! Thank you for your thoughtful response.

True. I could definitely be projecting my feelings. I’ve known them for a couple years. Thank you for your thoughts.

I want to first start by saying I have zero intentions of ruining a marriage, and that's why I would like to see what people think about this situation, in order to see if I need to distant myself from this. I met this guy years ago and we were reunited in a class more recently. We've recently became fast friends and he's mentioned that he is glad we've become such good friends, as it's hard to make close friends the older we get. I am also friends with his wife, they are both great people and I am happy they are in my life! However, sometimes I question whether his feelings are developing, but I don't know if I am overthinking things, as I often do. How can I tell if he's just being friendly or interested? Here are just some things I've noticed: He will text me a couple times a week to talk. Just random things; usually goofy things or ask me how I am doing. He said he's interested in getting to know more about me. If we are at social situations (we have mutual friends), he will text me funny questions in response to what's happening in the room -- but doesn't do that with anyone else. He'll give me compliments or do little acts of service when he can. I noticed he tries to be close; whether that's parking by me or sitting close so we can talk. He's mentioned that I am a safe space and also that I remind him of his wife in a way. Now writing this all out, it seems silly, but my friends have made comments before jokingly... I should also mention that he speaks very highly of his wife and seems to adore her. It's confusing? What do you think? Again, I am willing to distance myself if needed, but I don't want to act hastily if this is a normal friendship with a man that I am just not used to. He just might be a little more sensitive than what I am used to. Thank you for your input!