KarrieLou

He pays for food every so often, I pay for it most of the time because I just automatically shop for food all the time (I'm a feeder!). Rent he gives me £50 a month towards it, yes I do have to push to remind him but he can't afford to pay for two places at the same time - as he stills pays his mortgage and bills at his house. His house is perfectly liveable, there's no reason he's not living there it's just because we all want to be together instead of going back and forth as it's more stable for the children. We can't afford to buy a family home until his house has sold.

I don't understand, he lives in the house with us and takes our child out (along with the rest of us but sometimes on their own), and he does buy things like food and clothes just not all the time, as I do it other times.

I completely understand that but child support and bills is not what I'm asking for advice on. I know he doesn't owe me anything in regards to where we should buy a house etc. I'm just asking for advice on the house and compromising situation.

I just feel like I've compromised on a lot already, he doesn't want anymore children, he doesn't want to get married and the house would be decorated in his way. Living in M would be the only compromise he needed to make, and it was still a compromise for me too. So now to find out that he won't do this has upset me massively.

He's selling his house so we can afford to buy a family house that's a bit bigger. He doesn't help with my bills, he still pays his own rent and bills for his house. He occasionally gives me £50 a month towards my rent but I do have to push for it.

I don't really know why it's taking so long to sell. We're in the UK if that makes any difference 🤷 His kitchen needs making more modern but that's all. It's not a perfect area, but I wouldn't say it's huge on crime.

He put it up for sale when we agreed we wanted a family house, which we originally agreed would be in the M area. He wouldn't be going back to his ex, that's not a house they lived in it's purely his.

My family live in M, I currently live in M as I had problems with severe depression a few years ago so had to be close to my mum to help with childcare. My daughter's school is still in S (where I lived before this) as she has very bad anxiety issues and moving schools would cause it to get worse. Partner's legal residence is R but he's been living in my house for the past year while his has been u for sale. His ex and family live on R, yes. I would struggle to afford the petrol money for school runs from R and he just doesn't want to move anywhere else.

That's what we did at first, we looked around at multiple places that we could both afford but M was the only one that we could both afford petrol for school runs/work etc. It's also the one that's better for my mum who is the one that does my school runs due to my work, but I give her the petrol money to make up. Ive suggested couples therapy to help but he doesn't think it will make a difference. I'm currently doing talking therapy by myself.

Sorry I didn't make it clear in my post. Basically the place I want to live is S, which is where my child's school is. He wants to live in R as this is where his family and child's school is. M is the town that is in the middle of these two so would make it almost equal distance to schools, this is why it's the compromise. Neither of us want to be in M, but it's the town in between both which would be best until the kids have finished school and we can go wherever. M is 15 mins away from his child's school, 20 mins away from mine, so it's the most in between we can get.

We both agreed M was the best compromise, yes. We did both state neither of us particularly wanted to be there but it was the best option until the kids have finished school.

M was the compromise because it's the town between where each of us want to be, it's 15 mins away from his child's school - which where he wants, and is 20 mins away from my child's school - which is where I want. It's as in the middle as we can get. Yes we lived separately and his house is still his legal address. We want to live together as a family which is why he put his house up for sale (I'm renting so can't sell mine), so we could use the money to buy a house for all of us.

It's too small for all of us, it's the house I lived in before we met.

He wasn't married to his ex, he's selling the house through estate agents and it just hasn't sold yet. We don't have a lot of money so we'd use the money from this house as the deposit for a family house. My child's father left while I was pregnant so I have full 24/7 custody.

Advice needed please. My partner has an 8 year old (who we have 50% of the time), I have an 11 year old and we have a 2 year old together. We've been together four a half years, we're currently staying in my house as partners house is up for sale and we can't afford anywhere else until it sells. For the purpose of this post partner lives in R and I live in M. Partner told me tonight that he won't move away from R, he's miserable here in M and won't go anywhere else. His family are in R, his child's school and friends. I don't know anyone in R, and M is half way between our kids schools (my child has severe anxiety so moving schools would cause huge problems). M is where my parents live and my mum does all of our babysitting, she does my school runs as I start work too early (I give her petrol money for this) and she's disabled. I don't mind moving away from family as we both drive so it won't be too much harder to see them. M was the compromise as it's in between where we actually want to be, but he's said that he won't go anywhere other than R. Going to R would mean a half hour journey to school for my child every morning, 10 mins extra added on to my mum's journey with school runs. I honestly can't stop crying, all I can think of is this is going to break us up. I love him and I want to make things work, I don't want our family to break up but I just don't know if I can take my child further away from school.