Confused girl 55

Wow your words are powerful. Thank you for your energy! You made me to realize many things. I’ll more focus on my child and his future. I liked you call this guy “a flakey lover”. Indeed😂

Yes, I’ll do my best. I will more focus on myself and my child. He is not worth to put my positive energy!

Thank you for sharing your past experience. I really started to consider to have a serious talk with my partner. I’ll make a decision very soon.

Wow you are amazing. Thank you so much for taking time to write a message and thinking about me. I really appreciate it. You are right, now i know what i need to do. I’ll talk to my partner about our situation and more focus on me and my child. This guy was single but he has a child who is same age as my kid. He also wants to have another kid in the future but I don’t want to have a baby anymore. There are many complications in our relationship, so we know we should not see each other anymore. (We’ve talked about our future a lot.) But somehow we always text and start to talk again and again…. yikes. We both know we should not be together, but I assume that kind of suppressing makes us want to see each other again. But I think i’m ready to move on. Thank you for sharing your experience as well. Now you are stronger than before and I’m proud of you. Thank you again!!

You are right. I think i’m the part of the reason to create this situation as well. Maybe we both just enjoy this thrill and confusion. However, it’s been a year, and I know I need to move on. Thank you.

Good point. I never brought him to my family and kid, and I’ve never talked about this guy in front of my child. My priority is my child, my life is not only mine. I believe my life situation is affecting to my child. So i’m really mindful of that. That’s why i’m indecisive what I want to do. But now I kinda know what I need to do. Thank you for your advice!

Thank you. That’s so true. I think that’s the one of the reason, this guy acts this way. He can’t be sure 100% with me because of my situation. So it’s not only his fault to create this situation. It is my fault too. I didn’t put much detail to my post, but he really cares about me. I’ve never noticed but unconsciously this situation is convenient for me too. Not too serious but not too casual…. Thank you again.

You are right nobody wanna date with the person who is still married. I agree with that. We were separated but now we live together as a roommate because of financial reason and our child’s mental health😔 I’m a child psychologist so i’m focusing on my child’s mental stability…

Thanks for your advice. I am technically still married but I and my partner were over since 2018, and my partner understands the situation. (no romantic relationship but we are married for our kid.)

I met him a year ago at the cafe he works. It was a weird encounter because i felt something really strong connection between me and him. However, i didn’t know what to do. After a month later when I came to his cafe, he came to my table and gave me his number. He told me he felt a connection with me as well and would want to get to know me. I was surprised because I learned he felt the same way. Then, we started to date for a little, but i was in the process of separation with my husband so it was a bit complicated situation at that time. Long story short, we were seeing for a while, then i was tired of his hot and cold attitude, so i left him. Then after a few weeks, he came back to me and we got together…. we had been on and off like that for a year. Now he got a gf 4 months ago, we haven’t seen each other since then. But we met last week for our first time since he got a gf. He told me he still hasn’t fully moved on, he is still fantasizing about we are being together blah. How much he missed me…. We just kissed but no sex. He told me he is confused by his feelings and he doesn’t know what he wants. (He said he likes his gf but he still thinks about me.) But he never fully being together with me for a year. I just don’t understand his intention. What do you guys think about his attitude? Does he just need my attention? I’m 11 years older than him and we are really different. My guess is he likes me but he knows we can’t be together?? We have a strong connection we can’t ignore… Thank you for reading my post 🙂