Ms7000

According to whose standard should we be loving together after 3 years.? I understand you feel the need to fill in gaps with your own ideas in order to give a response however please do not use my post as an excuse to make assumptions about me or my partner.

Thanks for the response but off topic

Thanks for the response but kinda off topic...

There was no talk of "someday". A timeline has been discussed.

I agree with you, this would not be sustainable if this was a casual relationship. We are looking into buying a house together and he has said he plans to marry and start a family, although he has not officially popped the question. I was looking to buy a house on my own last year but he suggested I wait until he's in a better position financially so we can buy together. Hence the 3 jobs over 7 days/ week. I don't knock him for the hard work he's putting in. I just get annoyed at his attitude with how we communicate sometimes

Not yet but in the future I'm thinking I will tell him he needs to ask since he expects me to ask him.

Don't do it. Meet in a public space first and have him get accommodation elsewhere if needed. Not worth the risk.

I have been with my partner for 3yrs, we are both in our late 30s. We live about 60miles from each other. Most of the year he works 7days a week. I work the usual mon-fri, so I usually do the long journey to his to spend time together. We were meant to see each other this weekend but I wasn't feeling 100% to do the journey, so cancelled. I tried to schedule going up in a couple of weekends, so first asked if he had anything on besides work. He said no. I said I'll drive up for that weekend then. His response was, "I didn't say you could come". I "responded, you don't want to see me?" There was a bit of back and forth but basically he was trying to say I should have asked him if I could make the drive up and spend time with him. What annoys me is he never asks me explicitly if he can come to mine. If he's coming he'll ask if I'm free and if I am he'll tell me he's coming. It's one way for him and another for me. Is it just me or is he being obnoxious and on a power trip?