Well folks, this won't be easy to explain, so please bare with me. I've become best friends with a male whom is 15 years older than I. We love one another, but I have never been in love with him. He knows this, yet still seems to want more. We talk about EVERYTHING, have been friends for 4+ years, and he loves me for who I am, but I'm not the least bit attracted to him. I truly care about this man.
We do everything together. We started to kiss one time a couple of years ago, and I stopped it, as there was no chemistry on my end..at all. He accepted this, and we agreed to be friends. It never went any further - we didn't even finish our one and only kiss because I was really turned off.
I am in my 50's and ready to date again after being single for almost 10 years. The problem that I'm having is wanting desperately to keep from hurting him. Every time I start looking at dating sites, he is in the back of my mind, as I know that it will break his heart.
Does anyone have advice on how I can go about this without devastating him? I do not want to lose him as a friend, he is a wonderful person, and I've even tried to have romantic feelings for him - It's just not going to happen. In theory, it seems like this should not be an issue, but it is. He literally has nobody left. His child died of cancer, his parent's and siblings passed long ago, he has no family left, and this is heartbreaking. I am his "person", he is mine. We know everything about one another; The good, the bad, and the super ugly. He looks at me with stars in his eyes. He is in love - there's no doubt about that.
Please, if any of you have some insight, or have been through similar, how would you handle this? Thank you in advance!