amyward79

yes ive told him today how I feel about him keeping me from his family and he continuously brings up the window incident. I told him I can not and refuse to have a relationship where he doesnt come to my home. he keeps stating he is uncomfortable, I stated that he just came over not to long ago, his comment back was yes because I dont want to lose you. well than ***, why change up now and still tell me he desperately doesnt want to lose me. I would have left a million years ago. I think and definitely know now after all this contemplation of my life why I hold on. I have absolutely no one left but my children who have their own life. Again they are turning 19 in 2 days and I also have 2 daughters who are 23 and 21 soon. The girls have their own houses with their bf and are always working. my sons are always at work an have their own gfs. My entire family is gone(moved away) I never talk to them. I have no one!!!! I hold on to him because of that but its time to let go.

I have never met anyone but his father face to face. I have given my bf the benefit of the doubt the entire time and have tried my hardest to be understanding. Even though he was the one to initiate and recommend meeting my entire family. Mind you I was the one to approach his house and his father answered the door. I arrived asking for my bf but his father stated he wasn't there. I don't know if he was or not due to a language barrier. I also only live 2 blocks away. I know I was a idiot for ever getting into this but at this point I'm trying to minimize damage. I just didn't want to give up and waste 3 years.

I find everything he does or says suspicious. I have made a decision to let him know immediately tomorrow that i need to let this unhealthy relationship go for the both of us. He is an admitted liar and I cant take it anymore. Everyone is correct if he cant let things go and my almost 19 year old did what does that say about him...not that much.

I wished that was the case. If he would be honest with me and have said that I would have walked away knowing Im doing the right thing for the guy I loved for years. Except for the fact I have tried many times to walk away and he always finds a way to get me back. I do feel like if I did leave for good he might harm himself or me. I just dont know anymore

No, I have not personally. There is always a issue. At first he wasn't comfortable and now its due to a issue with his windows being blown out in the house, he has explained that they think its me because the night it happened we were fighting. I have explained numerous times it wasn't me but to no avail. Regardless tonight was the last straw. He is the one who is constantly stating he wants to be with me and wants things to work. Tonight I informed him about the forum. I stated that it would help us to read the replies together and go from there. He about lost it stating that a forum is looking for unwanted attention and I shouldn't have done this. I also noticed on my way to a store tonight, he hasn't been home all day. I was on my way home from the store and was a witness less than 5 feet from my vehicle to a motorcycle crash and victim thrown from vehicle. long story short I was trying to get a hold of him and he wasn't answering or texting back. Eventually called back after seeing a picture but was at the gym supposed. I refused to answer his next phone call and will continue this way. I'm tired of being treated like I'm garbage. I don't care what age you are. He is playing games and holding on to me for what I have no idea but it wont happen anymore!

Yes unfortunately he lives still with his parents and sisters. I think he is embarrassed of his house because his family doesn't have a lot of money is what i assume. I do believe its time to let things go. I should have a long time ago. I work hard in a fast paced environment and deserve to come home to someone that wants to be around me at the end of the day. I absolutely see everyone's point and I appreciate all. I definitely needed the reassurance that I was feeling.

So, I actually told him I wanted to end the relationship if things didnt improve. He started crying and begging and told me he loves me and things will get better. I explained how I felt and he apologized and stated that he only wants me and def. wants to stay together and I was willing to give him that chance.

Ill try to make this as short as possible. been dating 3+yrs. Bf is a lot younger but we have had a great relationship and it has not affected us at all. He is 24 Im in my late 30s. I have 2 18 year old sons that live at home. My bf has gotten along with them up until last year when we got into a fight and my one son developed a grudge since than. My son was extremely disrespectful last summer by talking "crap" to my bf but that was as far as it went and nothing else was said. My bf continued to come to my home and spend the night . We never had another interaction with anyone. Fast forward to the end of October when my bf had surgery and hasn't worked and I haven't seen n him much since, compared to every single day almost all last year till the surgery. We just got back from a short vacation and talked about our relationship and he told me he loves me and has been depressed about not working due to another surgery. End of discussion we had a blast on our vaca and when I got home I explained that I need us to start getting back to us and start spending more time together and get back to us. He told me he is not comfortable coming to my home ever again because of my son. he stated he is extremely uncomfortable and refuses to give in. I talked to him and explained that my son has let things go and wants me to be happy . My son even offered to leave a couple times a week so that i have privacy. My bf absolutely said no he will not come here. Even tho he was here in the month of Dec,Jan,Feb with no issues and he didn't seem to be bothered. I have told him we need to figure something out or as much as I love him I wont be in a relationship where I don't ever see him. Also going to his house is not an option. He keeps saying he is sorry he is letting me down and sorry he is disappointing me but still refuses to come over. I have asked if its something else but he just says no one likes him in my house and he is uncomfortable. I believe there is more to this. Any advice or thoughts? I dont want to throw away 3 years but I need someone in my everyday life