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So gf cheated on me again with same guy as on xmas. this time it was day before my bday. she was not planning to tell me. the way she says it is that she ***ed up. AN WASNT GOING TO REPEAT IUT was going to keep it a secret to spare me the pain And that she had no intentions on wanting to take a break or asking for one or breaking g up However 3 MUTUAL FRIENDS OF THE RELATIONSHIP all found out PEOPLE WE HAD MEET AS A COUPLE 2 GIRLS ONE GUY. theY PULLED HER Aside and told her they know she cheated and they were going to give her the chance to tell me or else they were going to So she decided to instead of telling me she leave to A FRIENDS and so instead I found out from THE GUY FRIEND she after that wanted to take a break .I don't do breaks so now we are broken up .... Basically I asked her so if ii never found out you wouldnt want to take a break ?? HER ANSWER WAS YES Or WAS SHE even thinking of taking a break she said no ... And I said but now you do only because I found out . She sa+id yeah I FEEL LIKE IM BEINMG PUNISHED BY HER TO TAKE A BREAK DU BECAUSE OF OTHER PEOPLE TEWLLING ON HE R

I assume she would go stay somewhere one of her friends

So if you can look at previous post but as it stands. My gf of 7 years cheated on me has lied multiple times and after she cheated I left her for a month and a half which was in my head q break. Now as it stands I have no trust feel like everything is broke. And needs fixed . And alot of work o. Both our sides to fix it I have never cheated. I don't lie besides white lies always honest.and try to be reasonable able. But the g/f thinks we should take a break I think it's the worst idea. I do belive breaks are good. but usually that's if you have trust for each other. And we already took a break when she cheated to figure out if we should even get back together. I asked her why she said to work on the relationship. I said if your not able to work on it as it stands to atleast gain back my trust first then why would I belive your doing it on a break. Am I reasonable or should I re evaluate my stance? I do love her but I think trust is a must first.

But yes this is the girl who ended up cheating with that guy. I was looking for a isolated event for answers

Yeah sadly it is I'm just so stuck wanting to belive her Nd . Knowing it's not right

Because you don't give up on a friend is what she said

After I refused to let him over yeah. That's what became the case

Yeah I had explained it makes it seem like zhe is willing if I'm ok with it I told her. That's not even my place to give permission. Her thought process. He won't ask so no problem. G

We lived together for 6 years. been together for 7 she is 30 I am 32. He wS both our friend more mine then hers but we meet him after we were together

Ok so . There was a concern about a friend of mine that I stopped talking to. because he was being a bad friend. He would steal from us and lie to us. But my gf still wanted to be friends with him. I refused to allow him in our home. unless he apologized or even said he didn't feel he should have to. He did neither. When I started thinking he was only interested in getting g with her. I expressed co concern. She insisted just friends. I found out months later after that he tried to kiss her. and she turned him down. she told him you need to go ask me. knowing he would not have the balls to do so . But she never told me until now that they no longer talk. her reason is because she handled it. Am I wrong for thinking that I still should have been told ? Am I wrong g for feeling like she should have stopped hanging out with him? And because she choose not to tell me it looks worse than if she did when it happened? Please some insight and constructive criticism welcomed but I don't need any mean replies please and thank k you

i hgave heard this ansd know thgis to work but i want to say thank you for saying to me in a way that hits home kinds nice to get a compassionate reply thats also neutral \

hope it means nothing but i feel it means something on the subconcious level and yeah bad with grammar

its someone my girl had an affair with but no longer talks to but feel theres still some type feeling there despite her saying there isnt but if there are its something i would like to try to get out in the open and discuss

when do you call someone by thier full first name when normally but not always you call thjem by abbrivated EXAMPLE: calling them robert when you normally call them bobby from a womens perspective whats the meaning

I actually don't care about possessions that's more of the things and basics needed to be able to provide