Drewstoons

I think that is a very naive way to think. Ignoring a problem does not make it go away you know.

Trust your intuition. My mother did the exact same thing. She overlooked my fathers feminine side even though all of her friends and parents thought he was probably gay. If there is enough evidence for you to think he is gay then he probably is. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I have seen what my mother went through and wouldn't wish it on anyone. She tried so hard to make it work. If it all comes out and you find out he is, I have some words of advice from a child who went through what your children probably will... Don't keep it a secret from your children. They will find out either from taunting kids at school or some other way. Discuss it openly. It will be much easier to take if it comes from you and is explained thoroughly. I don't know how old your kids are but if they are old enough to understand then you should tell them. Other than the initial shock, it's really not that horrible. I think its easier for daughters to take than sons but it gets better. It will be okay.