My husband and I believe that our 16 year old daughter is in an abusive relationship with her 17 yr old boyfriend. They have been dating now for 7 months and he never, never comes here. She always has to go to his house. Her grades this year and gone from 3.8 student to 1.0. She has skipped school and got suspended, she is pulling away from the family and has lost all her friends. She says that she does not want him here and takes all the blame on herself. We have heard conversations on the phone, yes we were easedropping, and he is verbally abusive to her on the phone and talks just very pornographic to her on the phone. My husband and I question her about that and she just makes up excuse after excuse for him, like oh he was just kidding, he did not mean it. Back in June, she accused her dad of abusing her, that was proven false by the school and the police. We have found poems of abuse in her room and she says that it was just notes from school. She just keeps protecting this guy and my husband and I do not know what to do. She has been gone for 2 weeks in a sancutary where she is staying because she ran away about 3 weeks ago. We are trying to get her help, but she has not opened up to any of the counselors at the shelter. She just continues to protect this monster. That is what he is in my book. If anyone has any ideas, please let us know. All we want to do is protect our daughter.
Thank you
A very Worried Family
