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No I'm not away from college I do it from home bc I can't stay on campus because of her. I have not stated that I was 18 in a previous post. You must be looking at someone elses maybe similar to this one. I was not 18 when I got with my boyfriend.
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So just like that just move out?
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So I've been adopted since I was a new born, I'm 19 now I'll be 20 in a few months. And my foster mom is so so controlling, I can't even spend the day with my boyfriend or either go out with friends for that matter. I'll explain why. Recently there's just been things going on in the house where I just can't take anymore. My foster mom is so judgemental of people so she doesn't like my boyfriend bc he's 29, its a little age gap BUT were both adults and mature. Our relationship is healthy, he treats me right and respects me, he's loyal and I'm the same. He hasn't done anything to her for her to not like him shes just always been that way and just cares about herself and what she wants, she doesn't want me happy thats for sure shes broken apart every relationship I've had and they never did anything wrong to her. I dont want to leave someone just because someone else doesn't like them and opinions anyone has to say especially if they haven't done anything to anyone. I could see if he was a bad influence or he did something but he hasn't!! She just loves talking down on me and my relationship. I just wanna be happy for once. I'm finally happy in a relationship where I love the person dearly and wanna be with forever. I mentioned shes controlling I haven't been out since middle school or highschool days. And I've been trapped in this house not able to do anything but homework, i am in college. Heres an example of what happened. I've been meeting up with my boyfriend while shes at work and i be home by the time she gets home BUT she came home early and wanted to call other people talking *** about me and how i left, she even told my brother and he told her to put me out on the street since I wanted to leave. So i didnt come home till the next morning because i was trying to advoid an argument because she loves arguing with people to get her way and so i had a decision to make either to come back home the next morning or just stay with my boyfriend and figure it out, but i came home the next morning and we had a conversation about me leaving to spend time with him bc I dont ever go anywhere! And decided that i was just going to pack a bag and stay with my boyfriend and advoid all this and i get it she was mad but i just wanted time away from the house but now its just drama, and she wants to get offended when I told her to treat me like an adult and she wanted to say "if I wanted to move out I am not able to bring clothes, my phone, my laptop. Nothing. See how you like it out on the streets I'll kick your little ass out since you want to be grown and do what you wanna do"- is what she said. Let me inform you a little. My foster dad passed away from cancer last year and when he was alive, he payed everything in this house all she did was use him for his money. She didnt pay for a single thing. Now that he is gone she is trying to play victim acting like shes done something when she knows she never has she uses people. I didnt appericate how she treated my father, its unacceptable. Its just like I'm tired of dealing with this, its becoming an everyday thing when I leave or go spend the day with somebody or either wanting to move out its a big problem so now if i want to go somewhere or spend time with my boyfriend she specifcally has to be at home for me to do anything, i feel like it doesnt need to come to that i should be able to do what i want but i cant all she does is make excuses after excuses for when I wanna do something, shes not going to let me do what I want to do unless I step up and do it. Its just like there has been a hold on me since I've gotten older and everytime i ask to go out or do something its always a "no" I wanna live my life, my toxic ex boyfriend was the same way he never let me do anything with my life so its similar to this situation. I wanted to come on here and say this because many people will think differently and think shes doing all this to protect me, but it isn't, she treats my sister the same way and sometimes my brother as well he moved far away from here. He wanted to get away from everything she has done, she even stole from me before! So its like anything I say or do I won't be able to do it bc she controls me and I let her do it bc I'm scared to do what I wanna do but then again I wanna step up and own up to what I wanna do but shes holding me back from doing it. And now today she walks around with an attitude and wants to talk *** about me and my boyfriend. I get that I left and didn't come home but damn, I'm an adult. I wanna feel supported by her not talk down on and treated like a kid. my boyfriend supports me through all of this and yet I have still a decision to make but because she is so controlling. Any advice??
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My boyfriend gets mad when i don't answer the phone..
itsprettylove replied to itsprettylove's topic in Relationship Advice
Why do you say he's talking to someone else? And it is random because we rarely argue but it's the simplest things. -
My boyfriend gets mad when i don't answer the phone..
itsprettylove replied to itsprettylove's topic in Relationship Advice
Honestly I feel like he gets mad when a call hangs up also and thinking I did it. I literally have to keep my phone close by just in case he calls so I don't miss it. I dont like feeling that way because I don't want him to get onto me for not answering. It just this phone situation with him is such a big deal when he wants to talk to me on the phone, he gets mad over the littlest things seems like. -
My boyfriend gets mad when i don't answer the phone..
itsprettylove replied to itsprettylove's topic in Relationship Advice
I mean this is the only time that its been happening he would get really mad one time where I missed his call but by accident. But now, he says be doesn't get really mad as he did before when we were in the beginning of the relationship, he Just says the fact he misses me and thats why he acts the way he does when I miss his call. I think its the only time when I miss a call, nothing has really happened besides that. -
My boyfriend gets mad when i don't answer the phone..
itsprettylove replied to itsprettylove's topic in Relationship Advice
I'll try doing that. -
My boyfriend gets mad when i don't answer the phone..
itsprettylove replied to itsprettylove's topic in Relationship Advice
No he hasn't asked me to quit school, I dont really hang out with my friends like that but if I were too I dont think it would be a problem to him. He hasn't said that spend too much time with family. -
My boyfriend gets mad when i don't answer the phone..
itsprettylove replied to itsprettylove's topic in Relationship Advice
He calls twice during the day and I'd say once a day its not everyday we talk on the phone because we mostly see each other. He calls me in the morning before I have class around 8am because that is when he's going to work, and when we are both going to sleep we call before then. -
My boyfriend gets mad when i don't answer the phone..
itsprettylove replied to itsprettylove's topic in Relationship Advice
We talk on the phone thats not the issue. Its not all the time that I miss a call its just sometimes like 1 or 2 times not much at all because Im always talking to him so thats not the issue here our communication skills are great. The issue is when I miss a call from him he gets mad I dont intentionally mean too Im normally busy or just not near my phone as I tell him when I call him right back after I missed a call but sometimes he doesn't answer its only because he's mad or assuming the wrong thing when I dont pick up. But I always tell him what I'm doing if I missed a call from him. It just irritates me and it turns into an argument Secondly, this is kind of a new issue in the relationship its never happened before. Everything else is good. He treats me well and is loyal to me, I treat him well and I'm loyal to him we have no other issues. -
My boyfriend gets mad when i don't answer the phone..
itsprettylove replied to itsprettylove's topic in Relationship Advice
We talk on the phone that isnt the issue. Its not all the time that I miss a call its just sometimes like 1 or 2 times not much at all because I answer when he calls me so thats not the issue. The issue is when I miss a call from him he gets mad I dont intentionally mean too Im normally busy or just not near my phone as I tell him when I call him right back after I missed a call but sometimes he doesn't answer its only because he's mad or assuming the wrong thing when I dont pick up. But I always tell him what I'm doing if I missed a call from him. It just irritates me and it turns into an argument Secondly, this is kind of a new issue in the relationship its never happened before. Everything else is good. He treats me well and is loyal to me, I treat him well and I'm loyal to him we have no other issues. -
My boyfriend gets mad when i don't answer the phone..
itsprettylove replied to itsprettylove's topic in Relationship Advice
He isn't in college. He is proud of me being in college its just the phone situation if I miss a call or something he just gets short tempered and mad with me. -
My boyfriend gets mad when i don't answer the phone..
itsprettylove replied to itsprettylove's topic in Relationship Advice
I dont accept it I tell him that he needs to calm down and stop yelling. But its like a big deal to him when I dont answer his phone call, I never seen it as a big deal. I just tell him that we dont need to argue over this. But I talked to him last night and he was just telling me he overacts like that because he misses me. But then again I see its no reason to get mad.