Mon_1609

Yes. I think he is broken or very damaged. He also says hurtful things about himself. He says things like “he is ***ed up” or that he has been hurt so much that he is cynical. Yesterday when we were arguing, I also told him to stop saying that about himself and that he has a lot of good things. When I said that he has a lot of good things, I thought that he was going to cry and now I think he senses that im pulling away because he is acting all sweet and nice.

I’m 25 and he is 26 and we are both from Costa Rica. I know that in Latin America there is still a lot of sexism but I have a job and I pay for my own things whenever we go out. Im realizing that I will have to let him go. He also make comments about the clothes that I wear sometimes. Just today I was wearing a top with cleavage and he jokingly said that is was going to be “kidnapped” I was hoping that it was going to get better….

I think his comments are offensive too. But sometimes I think that he has a problem also with men that are spoiled. I was so upset today when he said that comment about daughters being spoiled. I told him that he was being sexist and that men can also be spoiled and I also pointed the fact that his family helps him with his university. He ended up telling that I was right but I’m at this point where I don’t want to see him.

I know that this is a personal decision but I would love to heard another opinions. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and I know that he has been hurt a lot on the past but that is not an excuse for keep saying the things that he says. He keeps saying that a lot of women just want a men with money but then he says things like “but you are not like other women. You are smart and mature” Today he was driving me home and I was telling him that my parents gave my sister a car and he said an awful comment that he doesn’t want to have daughters because they are spoiled and I was so upset that I told him that men can also be spoiled and I think he saw that I just hit my limit and promised not to say anything like that again. I’m at the point where I’m considering ending things because my father is also sexist and I grew up hearing things like that. Am I overreacting?

I shared with him because he asked me if i was on birth control. I just told him the truth.

Hiii, I have been talking with this 27 years old guy for like 2 months. He was super sweet and i don´t know. I just got out of a bad relationship and i started to like him. We have a lot in common. At some point he asked me if i wanted to have kids and i though it was normal. I told him that yes, on the future and he said the also wanted to have them at some point. He always make jokes about marriage or living together but i know he is not serious. But yesterday we were texting and i told him that i stopped taking the birth control some weeks ago because of some secondary effects and he said "is because you want to have my babies"? We have not even had sex yet and i have not replied. Is this odd? I never had a guy telling me something like that.