mandy_n_jut

Me and my bf have been together for about a year and a half now, and it seems just the smallest things that he does annoy me. I feel like I am always yelling at him for the dumbest things. Like throwing his clothes on the floor or how long he plays his computer games and just little things like that. He has already told me that I am evil and that sometimes I treat him poorly. This makes me hurt so much inside because I love him so much. Why do I do this? I even tried to think how it would make him feel, but when it comes down to it, I do it anyway. I don't wanna do this anymore and I don't wanna hurt him anymore. What can I do?

That post I made over the summer, I also posted again about our update, in which I said that we were doing good, and the ex is no longer in the picture. Well now I have an insecurity issue. My boyfriend has given me no reason to not trust him since we have been back together. I just can't seem to shake this though, and move forward. I love him to death, and he said when I stop questioning him on how much he loves me, and past issues we had, that he will ask me to marry him. I really want this, and I want to marry him. Its hard, I can say that I will not feel insecure anymore everyday and twice on sunday, and it will still keep coming back and haunting me so to speak. I WANT to move forward for "us", and not dwell on the past. What should I do about this? Are there any other ways that I could go about it, or will this be with me forever???

I had the same problem awhile ago with my bf's ex girlfriend. Even up to almost a year after we'd been together, she would still call him. He knew that I didn't like this. And I made it very clear to him that this upset me, and that I didn't want him talking to her anymore, Trust me I had good reason, looooong story. But I was there when he called her and he told her that he didn't want her to call anymore cause it upset me, and that if it upsets me then it has to stop. She is engaged too, and still called my bf. When he told her not to call anymore she cried. Its like wth, if she didn't still have feelings for him, she wouldn't have cried. Anyway, she hasn't called since.

link removed That was the previous thread. Well I am happy to announce that we are back together. Things have been really good, and we are really happy. He hasn't been lying, and has been treating me well. His ex called his cellphone once, and I answered, and he sounded annoyed on the phone, and it cut off mid sentence, lol. She hasn't called since. That was like a month ago. He told me that she won't be calling anymore. He asked me to marry him numerous times. But we want to wait till the time is right, and he is in school right now. We would love to get married when he is finished with school. Thanks for everything again guys. I really love this man!

I moved in with my boyfriend after knowing him for 2 months..But we were only dating a month before I moved in..Yeah really really soon. If you really love each other though, it will work out. I wouldn't recommend doing it though if you have any doubts for some reason. But it worked for us, and hopefully whatever you decide, it works out for you too!

Like I said he came clean about a lot of the stuff he lied about. I haven't heard anything from her. She is supposedly gone now.. She moved away for school. I didn't give him another chance. We are still friends right now, even though he put the ring back on that I got him for xmas. He said that he wants to be with me, and that he never wanted to be apart. I am still so confused. I just don't wanna go through this again anytime soon. And I let him know that. He still apoligizes for what happened. I don't know that things could ever be the way that they were. But I'm just gonna take it one day at a time, and if we get back together, then he better be on his best behavior because I am not letting this happen again. I'll post in the future and let everyone know what happens and if we are together or not. Thanks for everyones advice and time.

well here is the thing....when we first started dating he was still with his ex, and he said that things with them were really bad. he said that he left her for me. i don't talk to her anymore, because when i found the hairclip, (which turned out to be hers btw) i freaked out on her, and we are not on any friendly terms whatsoever. so i can't talk to her and ask her anything. i talked to him again today, and he still feels the same and wants to try again and start over. but there has been too much wrong in the last couple of weeks. i can't just forget everything. it is still fresh in my mind. he said that he misses "us", and that he loves me. i already told his parents awhile ago that i was going to a get together they are having for labor day tomorrow. so i will be seeing him. and his sister who doesn't care for me too much for no reason at all. i just wanna take things slow and stay friends, and if i think things are going to change, then we will talk about getting back together, but till then i'm leaving my guard up, and not gonna be a doormat anymore. i'm very upfront with him about how i want things to be. and he says that he just wants me to be happy. am i doing the right thing..?

i also wanted to add, not to stick up for the jerk in anyway, but he did really treat me good in our relationship. he did everything that i would ask and more. he would get me flowers and gifts, and say that he wanted to marry me. the only thing that ever went wrong or that we fought about was his ex.

well i didn't talk to him at all the rest of lastnight, and much of today. then tonight he im'd me asking if he could call me to talk. i asked him what there was to talk about. i said that i am working on moving on, and that i'm not listening to his lies anymore, and that he can do whatever he wants, and what he does is none of my business. he confessed everything to me. he answered all the questions he denied before, and lied to me about. he said he wanted to once and for all be honest with me. he told me that he just wanted to hangout with his ex, who he said is a good friend before she moves away. and he said that he couldn't tell me about it cause he knew that i would freak out. in the past when she would call to say hello and see how he was doing i would get very upset by the way. he said he wants to be with me, and that he loves me very much, that he misses me, and never wanted us to be apart. i broke up with him, and moved out of his house. but i had good reason did i not?? he said that he is so sorry for what has happened, and said that he NEVER cheated on me. i don't know what to believe. i don't want him to think that i will just forget everything and take him back. its been a hard couple of weeks. i am just really confused, and don't know what to do. i know that i should move on. it is so hard. i just want things to be like they used to be, but i know that will never happen. there is just too much to remember. and all i can see is that cold look in his eyes, keep flashing in my head. he again said that he wants to make it all up to me, and wants another chance to prove how much he loves me, and continually apoligized. this is only the first time we've been apart like this in almost 9 months. should i give him another shot and see what happens, or should i just say forget it and move on..

My boyfriend of 8 months is now my ex.. we just broke up on Aug. 20th. I broke up with him. The reason I broke up with him is because he would always lie to me, I found a hairclip on his headboard that didn't belong to me, and he admitted he still loves his ex. It was so hard for me to do this because I love him to death. But he hurt me so bad. We talked soon after the breakup and he was crying saying that he loved me and that he wanted a chance to prove it to me. So I said that we would start out as friends, and see where it goes from there. Soon after he just seemed to grow so cold, and non caring. He made it seem like he was doing fine, and that the breakup was because of all this stuff I'm making up in my head. His ex told me things that he talked to her about. He would bad mouth me to her. And tell her how I'm going to go out and cheat on him..What a jerk. That is something that I would never do. EVER. I could never live with myself if I ever cheated. He really crushed my heart, and not even a week ago I went to his house, after he asked me to comeover. We had sex, and as he was getting dressed there was a hickey on his neck. I felt nauseous. Sick to my stomach. I told him to take me home. I stupidly went over a few other times after that. I didn't have sex with him since the hickey incident. But there were other signs in his room that someone else has been there. He would still tell me that he loves me, and stuff. I am just devastated. He was my first love, and I feel like I just wanna crawl into a hole and die right now. Just today we went out to eat. He seemed distant, and said that he wanted me to stay out of his business, and that he wanted to beable to do whatever he wants if we get back together. So tonight he said that he wanted to go out with a guy friend to a carshow thing, and I was like cool, call me when you get back, he gave me a kiss, and said bye. I got home and got online and the friend he wanted to go with was online. I im'd him asking if they were going to the carshow. And he said that he didn't hear anything about this. So I called my "justin" up at the same time, and he told me that this friend was on his way to pick him up. I was like I am talking to your friend now and he said he doesn't know anything about this carshow, and he just told me how nosey I am, and I hung up on him. I im'd Justin and told him to call me when he wanted to be honest with me. What I don't understand is the 8 months we've been together weren't that bad. We had a lot of good time, and what I thought was a great love for one another, but I guess I was wrong. I think he is sleeping with his ex, who he says is engaged to a guy in Iraq. She calls him ALL the time. And he is always right there to talk to her. She says what a great love they had for one another and things of that nature. This has really hurt me. I haven't eaten, am really stressed, and just wanna cry all the time. I know that I have to let him go though.

it wasn't in his car, it was on his headboard of his bed right near my bodysprays and stuff. He said it could of gotten there from me throwing all my stuff into my bags when I was packing. He said he honestly has no idea how it got there. All I know is that it isn't mine. I will get to the bottom of this. I will post again soon.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months now. We've had our good and bad days. Well recently we've been fighting about his ex. He told me that he still loves her, even though he is not in love with her, and he tells me that he loves me to death. They were together for a year and a half. Well we got in a big fight yesterday, so I packed all my things and went to my moms house for the night. He cried on the phone and said that he missed me, so I got my things and let him pick me up today. Well when I got here he was appoligizing, and telling me how much he loves me, and I look over and there is a hairclip on his headboard. Not of anything I own. At first he said that it was mine, then he said he put it there, after he found it on the floor. There is also a scent to it, nothing that I own again. It kinda smells like someone just had it in there hair kinda smell. I am very worried. His ex wore these exact clips. He is crying and telling me how much he loves me, and that he wants to spend his life with me, and he wonders how I could accuse him of doing something like this. He told me like a week ago that he still talks to his ex over the phone once in awhile. Just to catch up. She is supposidly engaged, to a guy that is in Iraq. I sometimes wonder. Is that just a coverup, so that I wouldn't know anything was going on, or am I just crazy. Please help me, what should I do with this??

My BF tells me he loves my heart, imagination, and sense of humor, and never forgets to tell me how beautiful I am.. On the other hand, I love his sense of humor, and his loving and caring ways...

Me and my current BF of 8 months have been living together. He is my first real love and I lost my virginity to him. I am his 2nd. I haven't noticed a problem in the beginning of our relationship, but now notice that I am kinda controlling. My BF likes to play online games A LOT, and I get mad about it, because I feel like he is neglecting me to be online. He gets on as soon as he wakes up, and all throughout the day. He tells me that, that is just what he likes to do. I know that he loves me a lot. When I do bring it to his attention, he says things like "do you wanna be attached at the hip", or "do you want me to crawl up your butt?" And is like geez all I wanna do is play my game, and he tells me that I am controlling. Am I not being fair or is he not being fair?

No I never heard of that. What is it?

Nobody likes to be hurt. How have the last 6 months between you and him been? Is there any reason not to trust him. Sometimes past trust issue leak into insecurity. If he has done nothing to question your trust than I don't see why you can't trust him. Though I know how you must feel knowing that he will be at school, around other girls, without you. I'm just gonna end this post like this. If he really likes you, then you have nothing to worry about. If he hurts you than its not worth it, and there are a billion other guys out there. I would just trust him, and see how it goes from there. I wish you the best of luck with him..

I have an appointment to get BC on the 31st. I was thinking of getting on the Patch, and just wanted some opinions on this. How well does it stay on? After showering? And is it as effective as the pill-(my other option)?Anyone that is using this form of BC please post your comments. Thanks

do they take blood too?