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  1. Yep, very confident it will clear up probably in 4-6 weeks I like the idea of suggesting meeting in a month or so yes... and if she's no longer available then I'll just have to accept it. But at least it would show my interest without having to go into a very awkward & in-depth conversation with someone I hardly know
  2. Thanks, i can see your point but realistically I think this would be overkill and she'd probably find it a bit strange, like 'why is he telling me all this when I barely know him'
  3. I'd happily do that but I don't get how I could put off sleeping with her for so long? It's basically more of an embarrassing health problem I currently have (nothing sexual related) and don't feel comfortable sleeping with anyone at the minute... and cant see that changing for another 1–2 months
  4. I didn't say anything about me expecting her to wait for me, I dunno what makes you think that I'm pretty sure she has other dating prospects on the go and I'm fine with that, I just wanted to let her know I'm interested. I could wait a couple months but then it will probably just look like I decided to date someone else instead of her
  5. I would like to do that but, going by some of the things she was saying / doing the other night, I'm pretty sure she'd wanna sleep with me asap if we started meeting up... and that's not something I feel up to right now ...
  6. I had an unexpected night out with a girl who I kinda know the other night (we used to work together) We had a lot of fun together and ended up making out a few times. She's probably wondering why I've not tried to set up a date with her, I really want to but I can't really date anyone for a while. I have some personal problems to deal with at the minute that are a little embarrassing (so I can't exactly tell her the full story), this will probably take a couple months... and then after that I'd love to start dating her. I've no idea what to do, should I ask her out but simply tell her I need to wait a little while first? Alternatively I could just wait a couple months before asking her, but that'll probably seem like I'm just asking her as a last resort
  7. Thank you so much. I think you've completely hit the nail on the head with that post 🙂 I can relate to pretty much all of it. I feel like I've had a big weight lifted off my chest, here's to the future...
  8. Thanks for your story, I also feel like I've been far too tolerant to those in the past who simply didn't deserve it. I am now a lot more picky when it comes to who to be friends with. It sounds like we are on pretty much the same page 🙂
  9. Thanks again. I'm probably one of the few people phasing friends out who is actually single, with no family commitments. But I feel like I kinda have to do this in order to eventually meet someone and settle down – I dont think that would ever happen if I carried on with the party lifestyle that I used to lead. I'm quite happy being single and focussing on my career, hobbies and getting some savings together. I find myself meeting new people & acquaintances through hobbies and my job, but strangely I quite enjoy solitude and don't feel much of a desire to have close friends these days. Also I've been trying to 'react' to peoples' posts but the forum still won't let me react to any more of them 🙃
  10. Thanks, yes thats exactly it really. They used to get frustrated when I stopped going out drinking with them regularly, which just shows their immaturity for not being able to accept my life choices.
  11. Thank you everyone for the reassuring comments, at least now I know I'm not doing anything wrong, I sorta wish I'd have done this a lot sooner. Yes I'm quite annoyed at myself for having been so lenient in the past, I should have ditched that friend in particular years ago. That's interesting that you phased out cousins too, I've kinda been doing that with some of mine too. They're good people but they're lives are just so different to mine that I find it hard to connect with some of them these days
  12. Is it okay to gradually phase friends out of your life rather than have some kind of official 'break up'? There are 3 friends in particular (from when I was a teenager) who I've seen a lot less of over the last 7/8 years or so, we have very little in common anymore. I also moved to a new city around 5 years ago, which is around a 90minute drive away. I see them around once a year these days, if that. They often want to hang out with me but I mostly just make out like Im too busy with other things. I feel like they will never grow up. We are now in our mid thirties, and their main interests are just going out binge drinking or drinking at one of their houses in front of the TV. They would often get quite jealous & bitter at the way I started going off and doing new things, finding new hobbies, meeting new people, and focusing on my career and fitness — generally just finding ways to better myself. I sometimes feel like they were holding me back in life, they can often be quite narrow-minded, judgemental and immature. One of them in particular would often be quite toxic and nasty when we were in our 20s, and Ive never quite gotten over it. They do have a nice side to them too, and they would happily drop everything in order to hang out with me... which is why I feel a little guilty I feel it would be overkill to arrange some kind of 'serious talk' and officially end the friendship, I also dont think they would take it seriously, and would end up gossiping about me to other people about it. I know of two other people who have distanced themselves from them... most likely for the exact same reasons I imagine.
  13. I wouldn't worry about it too much if I was you. I've had my fair share of one night stands and they've pretty much always been when the woman has suggested it, as I'm no good at initiating these things myself).
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