Hi everyone,
I have a female friend I've known for 5 years. We go to the same sports club together and travel to competitions together. I've been to her house many times to help put up shelves etc and we sit and chat.
I know her mother too and am on first name terms and have been round her house a few times.
My friend is a single mum so her own mum was looking after her daughter the other Friday night when we went for some drinks with friends.
My friend messaged her mum asking if she'd pick us both up and gift me a ride home.
We left the bar and walked back to her mum's car. As it was cold and dark, part way there I had my hands in my jacket pockets. I just said "link your arm through mine". She did, didn't object. As we were good friends I thought this was ok.
We got in the back of her mum's car and I thought she seemed she was sat as far away as she could be. Her daughter was very quiet too. When I was dropped off her mum waved but my friends daughter who usually enthusiastically waves at me didn't.
Now my friend treats me with contempt. Picks fault in things I say. Doesn't engage in conversation, I get one word answers.
I asked her if the linking arms the other Friday night was the reason. She said "what are you talking about? You overthink things. I would tell you if you annoyed me".
I do overthink things but when I asked her a couple of days later if she was ok because she'd been short with me, she just said she had things going on and was sorry if she'd been that way with me.
However It is only me she is that way with no-one else.
I don't think she's being honest. But the behaviour has continued. It's unpleasant and upsetting to say the least
She is clearly very angry with me and seems to have decided that our friendship is over by her actions not her words.
She avoids me too.
I have no choice now but to back off but I'm stunned after what seems one small mistake, if indeed it is that incident but I can't think of any other event.
Why would she say it isn't incident if it is?
Can anyone offer any insight into this?
Thank you
M.