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ive been dating this guy for around a month now. i really really like him. today he got a dm on instagram from a girl who had apparently been watching him in school and was his "secret admirer". she was texting him all sorts of sexual nonsense (knowing he had a girlfriend) and was sending him really weird stuff. he showed me these texts and i thought it was a sort of prank, because it sounded really weird. it turned out that it wasnt a prank, and it was a real girl. she also dm'd me too and while she never was openly hostile towards me, i can tell she was being passive aggressive. i told him about this and he had apparently been talking to her and decided she was cool. he said she invited him over to her house and he said yes. this really triggered me. i got super angry and i asked him how he could go over to her house after he knew she was basically stalking him at school. i told him she clearly doesnt like me and shes going to try something with him. he tried to say that she doesnt hate me. i told him that i will fight for him but i refuse to fight OVER him, and i told him if hes not gonna get rid of her then he should let me know so i dont waste any more of my time with him. he blocked her after that. i cried for hours after that. but it still really pisses me off. the way he handled the situation really gets to me. and the messages he sent her piss me off too. he asked for pics of her. i just am not cool with the fact that he accepted her offer and was seriously planning to go to her house to do god knows what. he never fully apologized. after that he stopped replying to me and im guessing just went to sleep or something. i dont know what to do. im still really angry at him. should i just break up with him?

and i was 14 at the time and he was 17

it was a different ex lol not the one my previous posts were about

i keep thinking abt the time i was with my ex boyfriend and he wanted to have sex. he took off my pants and i let him. he told me he wanted to give me oral and i told him i didnt want that. he said ok. but after that he immediately tried to give me oral again and i had to push him away and i told him i already said no. he said he "forgot" i said no and apologized. then he kept doing it again and again and i had to push him off everytime and tell him i dont want him to give me oral. it made me extremely uncomfortable how he kept forcing himself on me after i repeatedly said no but i tried to play it cool. i feel like im overreacting to some degree but i cant get it out of my head. ive blocked him but i havnt confronted him about this.

no hes only a year and 5 months older than me. they called the police because theyre really strict and i told them i was gonna be at a boys house.

my parents and i got into a really big fight today. i left the house and told them id be back later. i met with my boyfriend and we walked around together. my mom found me and made me go back with her. later at home i found out she had went to his house and saw his mom to check if i was there. i dont know exactly what she said but i know it was bad. after i got home, my boyfriend told me he didnt wanna be in a relationship with me if my parents dont trust him to be with me. he suggested we stay friends but i said i couldnt because my feelings for him are too strong. it hurts so bad. i definitely dont blame him. one time my mom called the police and sent a police unit to his house to get me. i know this is way too much for him. i know he doesnt deserve any of this. i know this is my mess and my mess only and i didnt mean to get him involved. but it still hurts so much. i feel like my world is ending. no matter how hard i tried to keep him, i still lost him in the end. ive cried so much already and it hasnt even been a full day yet. i just want him back but i dont know how to make anything better. i dont know how to get over it. i have no one else in my life to go to. the fact that i lost him because of them makes me hate my parents more than ever. i dont know how im gonna last here until i can legally move out. theyve already ruined so much of my childhood. i dont know what to do . i dont knw what to do to make anything better. he was the only thing i had left and now im all alone again.

hes literally lying about going to see another woman... trust me you will find better! someone who prioritizes you. its very clear to me you should leave him because hes not going to change. he sounds extremely manipulative and narcissistic.

you took her for granted and now its too late to go back. best thing you can do is learn from this

its not like im treating him as my trauma dump. i dont talk to him about my issues that often anyway because i know hes not my therapist. but yesterday was really tough and i asked if i could talk to him, and he said YES and said i can always talk to him. if he didnt want me to tell him then why would he say yes? anyways by the way he acted during the conversation, i would have rather he said no anyway.

i was going through a rough time yesterday and i needed someone to talk to and i tried to talk to my bf about whats going on. he was very distant during this conversation. i asked him if he cared at all and he said he does care. i asked him if he cares then why doesnt he ever ask if im okay or whats going on with my home life. he said he does want to know, but he doesnt ask because hes afraid its not going well. i said "so youd rather just not know if im ok or not?" and he said again that he does want to know but he doesnt ask because hes 'worried'. i said he just doesnt like hearing about it, and he agreed and his excuse was "yeah im kind of an empath". this really upset me and i told him he doesnt need to worry anymore because im never gonna talk to him about my life anymore anyway. i just think if he really loved me and cared about me he would try to make sure im okay? idk. am i wrong here? am i expecting too much from him??

i think ur right! i also grew up in a family like that and dated a lot of people with jealousy and control issues, so i guess thats why thats how i see love since this is the first time ive dated someone who isnt like that.

i see him every day at school and we hang out sometimes after school. we mostly just watch stuff together or talk. i also see him at work since he works someplace near my house so i go see him there sometimes. yes we enjoy each others company. its nice when hes with me because though hes quiet he smiles a lot and hugs me a lot. but over the phone hes very distant

hes 17 and im 16 tho i dont think hes only with me for sex because we havnt even had sex yet. he tells me hes just socially awkward + hes busy a lot with school and work and thats why he doesnt talk to me often

i get jealous over my boyfriend. my boyfriend told me the he doesnt get jealous over me at all. he said he does get jealous but not about romantic or sexual relationships. we've been dating about 2 months. idk why but the fact that he said he never gets jealous really got to me. i think i like him more than he likes me. im always the one to initiate every time we meet up. he never goes out of his way to see me. hes pretty dry over text and he takes a while to reply too. it makes me feel kind of unwanted. i really love him and seeing him is the best part of my day but he doesnt talk to me much. ive talked to him about this but he reassures me that he does love me but hes just socially awkward. i really want to believe him but he just seems distant from me. does he not love me or is this just his personality???