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Thank you everyone for your replies. The thing is, is it really gaslighting if he's not aware he's doing it or if his intentions aren't to hurt me? The example I gave of him talking about another women is something that could've been solved with him simply saying sorry I hurt your feelings but he has a lot of issues with apologising and tends to shut down if an issue arises. I've pretty much begged him to work on communicating with me and the past 3 years he said he'd try but I haven't seen an improvement.... I don't think he's a narcissist in any way, he just struggles with emotions and avoids dealing with conflict due to an abusive childhood and past abusive relationship. I do feel like a push over sometimes but I hate arguing and I'm easily guilt tripped. Thank you to everyone for making me feel like I'm not just being very sensitive and over reacting

Hello all, new to this forum. I'm in a relationship of nearly 3 years and lately seem to be having no end of problems with my partner. Last week he was going on about some women who was hot and out of his league, I told him this bothered me and he gave me the silent treatment for 2 days and I was stuck in the house in silence the whole time. Anyway after 2 days he asked me what was wrong and I said he'd been completely silent ..... Told me he wasn't giving me the silent treatment then said he was, then said he was sick.... Then said he was giving me the silent treatment but was also sick and that I caused it by over reacting and that it shouldn't have hurt my feelings. This is an ongoing thing, he's always changing his story even with the smallest thing like one day he might say he hates a certain movie, few months later its his favourite one. Individually they're not that big of a deal but when it's constantly happening I find myself wondering if I really know the person I'm dating. I brought it up to him and he said he says things that aren't true to have interesting conversations or bring up a debate and that he doesn't see it as an issue. I'm going between feeling like he's trying to drive me mad to feeling like it's my fault and I'm over reacting.....anybody have any thoughts on the situation? Apologies if this is very long, my heads just wrecked from this!