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Thanks Kelly, That sounds like a fab idea........will check it out this weekend and see what's happening! Cheers, S2L

Hi everyone, I and my girls are looking for some good joints to hang out in this bank holiday weekend..... ....the Notting Hill Carnival is happening and we do not wish to be squashed up in some dingy pub/bar, so we are wondering where all the savvy peeps will be hanging out.......any suggestions? Besides we love RnB, Hip hop and at the moment.......we are loving the YINGYANG TWINS!!!!!! - HOLLER!!!!!!!

Hi...........I know that reading a book takes your mind off things but I also found a way that really works for me and I would like to share it with you. First of all, recognise that you're not an animal and even if you were, no one deserves to be treated like that & he has no rights to put his hands on you. So don't even think of going back to him. Secondly, I find that when I am in real pain like what I feel from you.....I spend a long time feeling sorry for myself and isolate myself from the rest of the world......this is not necessarily the best thing as it can set you into depression but at the time, I had to do what I had to do at the time. What I want you to do is find a notebook/journal/papers and every time you are feeling this pain, write it down and say 'exactly how you are feeling'......write it all down........put the time/day/location of where you are and at the end, say 'I know tomorrow will be a better day and I'll be stronger and feel better than I do today'. The fact is this, the more you write down, the better.......write like you're expressing yourself to someone, get the anger out on paper...... 'cos you can't always talk to people.......now read it back to yourself and then clarify, accept and put it away. Do this everyday/everytime you feel this pain and you'll be surprised that one day, you will be fine.....you'll be able to read them and laugh and then, what I want you to do if 'burn them all' once you've come to terms with the contents.........then you'll be fine. I can't tell you what I went through with an ex of mine, it's too much and I did contemplate suicide at times.............but I did this and I'm still here, happier than I could ever imagine........so try, okay??? I've told a lot of my friends to do this and they have found it very useful, so I wish you luck!!

Hi, I'm not a guy but it sounds like infatuation on your part.........does he have a nice body or what exactly did you get to know about him from the times you've met or seen him???

Okay everybody.......this is 2005!!!!!! HeLLooooooo???? She is obviously smarter than you think 'cos she is asking and not just doing it like alot of her agemates, so cut her some slack?? Hi....italian_chick505.....I think you are going to do what you wanna do regardless and I figured that from your tone.....so this is the best thing....though you look older than your age, your years still count in that you really don't want to loose your childhood as you can NEVER get it back. So I suggest you and your man enjoy the innocence and try not to rush things.......?? Dry sex (whatever that means) can be dangerous as you might find yourself getting more intimate than you planned and things happen........so Dry sex or not, always have a 'rubber' ready and recognise that 'YES' you can get pregnant even with a condom...(they sometimes break'......so the best precaution is 'abstinence' until you're at a point in your life where you know that getting pregnant would not harm your plans/goals and that you can handle the responsibility. Otherwise, good luck...........I must tell you that the number of teenage mothers in England is soo high and they lose out on the good things in life & I am sure this all resulted from having dry sex, and trust me.....looking older doesn't necessarily mean that you are ready.....besides you sound great as italian_chick505, wouldn't sound that good if you were italian_mommy505.....get the hint????

My dearest brethrens, especially those who gave me buckets of advice in my last topic 'fitness peeps.......where am I going wrong', I thought I should give a quick update on my progress so far......... Heres how my week goes now.........I get into work at 8.30am every morning and thus, have to bring in my breakfast as I cannot find time to eat at home. So I have brought in a bag of crunchy oatmeal cereal with live Bio-yogurt for breakfast, which I have everyday at 9.30am..........then I get peckish again by 11.00am and snack on a banana.........then by 1pm, I am peckish AGAIN!! The problem is I work mainly on a PC and I am stuck to the seat for 7 hours a day!! (This is one of the main reasons I piled the pounds on in the first place,)......So I have concluded that I seem to get hungry every 2 hours (mainly due to boredom)......but I have stuck to my 2 litres of water a day rule and it's been quite good!!! I have banished the nuts FOREVER and have invested in carrot sticks as my healthy work snack. I have been drinking water like crazy (thanks for that computer kid) and snacking on purely fruits.........I have brought in black grapes, strawberries and an apple......which I switch around but demolish all the same by the end of the day. By lunchtime (2pm) I try and have another bowl of cereal with skimmed milk or I go to the cafeteria and order a salad with some protein (maybe an egg/lean meat)....after which I keep snacking on those carrot sticks/fruits till the end of the working day!!!!!...At 5pm I head for the gym (I do 3 days during the week and 1 day in the weekend now.......mainly Saturday mornings). My routine has taken a turn for the worse......(I am afraid to say)..WHICH IS WHERE I NEED ADVICE..... ....as soon as I get in the gym.....I get on the bike and do 15 minutes, take a break and switch to the cross trainer, another 15 minutes......then I attack the stepper (which i hate with a passion and just about manage 10 minutes with a push) and then I use the rower for a further 10 minutes)......I occasionally switch this same routine, eliminating the stepper and using the threadmill for 15 minutes. Then I hop along to the weights section (where all the fit men hang-out...... ).....this is where my mind goes blank......I really do not know what I am doing in this section.......I switch between the arm/leg training machines and I am pushing slightly heavy weights (50 kilos on average) and I am afraid that my thighs (which are my biggest problem) are getting slightly bigger and my aim was to tone them up and make them appear leaner.......PLEASE HELP......those who know how to get those lean, sexy legs as I am really keen on not messing up my body with bulky muscles.............I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!!! STAY FABULOUS........ =D> S2L

Yeah, that's exactly what I thought an orgasm was..........! A few seconds of tenseness and sometimes your legs tighten up and shake like you've had an electric shock! There's them telling me that I'm yet to experience one.......yeah right??? -One of my pals thinks that you have to start screaming like the house is on fire in order to know that you've had an orgasm.......but I haven't experienced that before. Don't get me wrong.......I am sure I have reached the pinnacle of good sex, but what's with the screaming??????? I know that I tend to moan a bit more than during the foreplay stage but that's about it........??? Another one of my friends said she starteds sinking her teeth into her partner at this point......I reckon she is a bit of a vampire.......lol!!! Or maybe she just watched a very bad porno-flick when she was learning what its like------eg. Dracula's seedy porn LOL!!! Sorry, but she must be nuts!!!!!!

Okay Ladeez...........who's bold enuff to tell me what a real orgasm should feel like? AND I am talking about the ladeez as I'm quite sure I've missed something from what I watch on the tv???? (Laughing!) Okay seriously, holla at me as I'm just really wondering if I've had one?? (well, I know I've been excited and real 'w*e*t' but what's it like for you?? i'M serious.....so once you've read this, pls leave a point as this is some serious discussion I'm having with a few of my female colleagues..............

hi guys, I am sort-of seeing this guy and even though we have 'great physical action' together........I feel like he is just enjoying that aspect and maybe doesn't feel like he needs to make any more effort with the other aspects that make up a relationship. I am well aware of casual sex etc but I feel there is potential for more than that if I make things a bit harder for him.......I mean try not to make it so easy for him to get 'the cat' when he wants it.........make him work for it.....I know he wouldn't want me to stop seeing him as I believe I make his day whenever I'm with him.......(also we have good conversation), I just feel like there is a wall around this man's heart that I need to break down in order to get a look in. Anyway fellas, any advice??? What can a woman do to make him make pay attention and put more effort in the chasing?????? I welcome all tips and PMs on this topic!! Cheers y'all! S2L for life.

Hi.........I think the best thing to do is speak to your man, especially to find out how she got your number.......then I would insist that he needs to finalise things with her, so this situation doesn't take a bad turn. I would then contact her if he felt it was appropriate.......as she is his past not yours and you don't want a situation where she feels she can start stalking you/hounding you whenever she feels like......you both need to do this unitedly and let her know that you don't have anything against her, but that you are just the innocent party........one way or the other, she is still holding on to your man and he needs to put a full-stop on that without fear of not seeing his child (even if it means taking it to legal measures.) Good luck! S2L

Lostlove.........I don't know your age, but I reference to your statement ''we both love eachother, and we kind of decided that someday when we're adults, and we're ready for the kind of commited relationship that we want to have with eachother, then we will be together''. This statement suggests to me that you are still pretty young and it makes me worry that you may be putting yourself in a situation that is way too advanced for the stage of life you're at..........I mean, you are supposed to be having fun right about now, not having your heart broken/time wasted!!! You will probably not like what I have to say, but the truth always hurts. One thing I can assure you of is this, no one is shackled to anyone....if he loved you, he wouldn't be with her......so that point you must realise. He seems to be having his cake and eating it too......you are worth more than that, so realise your self worth and get out of that situation. Secondly, he is a PLAYA in Capitals....he is not playing a game that hasn't been seen before....it goes round and round!!!!!!...the fact is these guys seldomly leave these females.....a friend of mine is in a similar situation and so far as I am concerned, she has wasted 5 good years on this man, he has since married, is expecting a baby and is moving on 'fine', but he comes to have his cake whenever he wants and she is always available.........lets put it this way, read between the lines....Time wasters!!! I hope you make the right decision. Good luck S2L for life.

Hi Lara78.......... Sorry to hear that he still hasn't called....... But I will have to go with Jaela on this one. Although I am female, I have played the field in the past (but I was recovering from a painful relationship) and YES.....I have just wanted something casual from the beginning, but the trick is not to disclose that to the other person......as they may not wish to participate......even if that meant I had to break a few hearts on the way. I must say this though.......most of the guys that I did this to were innocent/decent guys. They genuinely liked me but I was not ready for anything serious.....the fact is, I didn't feel less of them and although I 'made sure' I never saw any of them more than twice.......I still respect them. It was my game.......just like it probably is his time to play. My advice is this......get out there.....it aint easy, but we all have to do it one time or the other.......as like Jaela said, Mr.Loser will only end up hurting you in the long run..........GOOD LUCK!!

Hi there............it's Friday!!!!!! Thanks for that swimraider, ComputerGuy, Demond34, darkblue, confusedgirl23, day_walker and my brethren Beec..(much respect)...........I really appreciate all you input (everybody) and you will be glad to know that I came into work today and have ditched the NUTS!!! I have searched so may diet websites and have had so many different opinions on what to snack on at work (I admit I am a bit of a snackaholic!!! )......somehow, I was led to believe that snacking on NUTS was healthy...... So today, I have graduated to prunes/papaya/apricots etc and next week, I have promised myself that I will be bringing carrot sticks & humous/fruits/those seedy things to work.......as I feel I really need to work harder on this. I will also increase my visits to the gym (make it 4 days as my other commitments won't allow me to do more) and I will indulge in Pilates. The good news is I am educating myself further and doing more research............'cos this time next year (Summertime in London)......I'm going to be fit and healthy and the best bit is......I'm gonna be one of those babes that you can't help applauding........I already am, but I want it to me more about the body than the face.....get it??? (I know y'all are feeling me) My fellow enotaloners...........I SALUTE YOU!!! Keep the advice coming as I need/appreciate it!!!!! Cheers!!! \ Peace and love, The Londoner, S2L

thanks guys..... .....however, what i gather from your response is that i must cut down what I eat........thereforeeee would I be right in assuming that weight loss is 80% based on food intake and not exercise as I am working my butt off in the gym!!!!! -and sweating like a pig!!!!

My fellow enotaloners...... , I need your help with this as I really don't understand where I am going wrong. I am a woman in my late twenties and I stand at 5'9 inches......(just for the record).......I have managed to go from 71 to 78 kilos in one year, after which I freaked out about 3 weeks ago and took up the gym...(by the way, most of this fat settled on my tummy/thighs)......(I go 3times a week.) After my second week, I jumped on the scale and discovered I was 75kilos..... Suprisingly, after the 3rd week, I seem to be back to 77kilos.... ..this really depresses me as I can't figure out where I am going wrong. My normal routine is as follows: 15 minutes on the bike at level 7-9 (I alternate) 10 minutes on the cross trainer at level 6-9 10 minutes on the rower 5 minutes on the step machine (my legs can't handle this machine at all) after which I go to the weights section and use the leg/arm machines on average weight 50. Now, I forgot to tell you this, my main problem is my thunder-thighs and my buddha belly......... ....well, my friends say its not that bad, but I feel bad about it and that's all that matters....by the way, I used to weigh 65kilos about 3 years ago!! I have cut down on my eating and snack on nuts/crystallized fruits all day at work (I work in an office 9-5, which means I am sitting all day) and have a sandwhich for lunch/drink loads of water/snack on cereal bars etc......basically I snack mainly on unsalted nuts (almonds/peanuts/cashew nuts)......and the occasional fruit (when I get a chance to buy them)....then I go to the gym and have a proper dinner at home!!!!!! My main problem now is that my thighs seem to be getting bigger and my gut is really starting to drive me nuts.....although the scale seems to tell me that I have lost something, I can't see it.......if anything I feel like a bloated p*i*g*.....can anyone help me with my routine or tell me where I might be going wrong............as I've cut out chocolate for this!! Thanks guys......looking forward to your honesty! S2L for life.......xxx