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I actually don’t, I have have had casual sex and kissing without bonding emotionally with some people before. But I was just worried because I already feel something for her so I don’t think I will act on it unless I know that I won’t catch anymore feelings and can just keep it at a friendship level. Thank you so much for your advice!

Thank you, I appreciate your advice. I do cherish our friendship so I will be careful about what I decide to do whether it is experiment with her or not, I’m gonna just try to get over my crush and be happy that we have such a great friendship.

uh because the title is saying exactly what I’m feeling? What does that have to do with anything, that right there is saying exactly what I am trying to say there’s no denial in any of that. You’re either not very smart or trying to go online and start arguments with people because you have nothing better to do. Lol I’m not combative and I’m not denying anything I say. I am being 100% clear and you’re on here looking for an argument.y therapist is doing a great job given she helped me get out of my depression. I don’t have an attitude I’m actually one of the nicest people you’ll ever meet and if you asked anyone that knows me they would tell you that. You don’t know anything about me, Get lost.

Who’s not admitting it? I am admitting it. And I’m not talking about ending up in same sex situations. I’m saying drinking more than intended to happens to everyone sometimes.

I’m not confused about my sexuality, I’m curious about the same gender. So that makes me bicurious and maybe bisexual if I act on this. Lastly, im not coming on to my coworkers. We became good friends and haven’t worked together in months because I left that department. So we haven’t been coworkers for a long time Maybe I did binge drink while I was on vacation one night and I agree, it’s not a good thing. But that doesn’t happen normally. I was just having fun that night and went overboard but that happens to everyone once in a while.

The times I was talking about being drunk were just 2 different occasions months apart from each other. One was a holiday (Halloween) and the other I was on vacation. Those are the only times I was referring to. You’re assuming I’m an alcoholic and need AA because I mentioned being drunk several times even though I was literally talking about two occasions and that’s it. You don’t know me to make those assumptions… I only had 4 drinks the night I made out with her and I got drunk because I was on a strict meal plan and working out 5 times a week, hadn’t drank in about 6 months so my tolerance was down. The second time as I mentioned, I was on vacation. I didn’t drink at all in between those two occasions and in fact I don’t ever drink because I don’t like it. I don’t have any problems and also the therapist thing, I’ve been seeing one for over 3 years. I don’t have depression anymore, I did years ago but not anymore. The only thing you got correct is that I do have anxiety. This post was just about advice on what to do, not for someone to assume things without knowing anything about me. I’m not trying to be rude, but it just bothered me when you said that because all I do is work as a nurse and go to the gym 5 times a week. I’m not confused about my sexuality, I’m curious about the same gender. So that makes me bicurious and maybe bisexual if I act on this. Lastly, im not coming on to my coworkers. We became good friends and haven’t worked together in months because I left that department. So we haven’t been coworkers for a long time.

Hi everyone, I don’t know who to talk to or anything anymore. I am a female and I’ve always only been with men. But I have a huge crush on a girl that I’m good friends with. I realized I had feelings for her about 5 months ago or so and they just keep growing stronger. I don’t know if it’s in my head or not, but from the beginning of our friendship (we met about 8 months ago at work) it has felt a bit flirty. I really think that sometimes it is flirty but I don’t know if that’s just me imagining things. Then we hung out for the first time in a group setting and it was fun, after that a couple months later we went and had drinks with some other coworkers and we got pretty drunk. I found out the next day that we made out that night when we were drunk but I was so drunk I didn’t remember. And after that I realized I had even stronger feelings because of that, just knowing that it happened made me happy. I always feel so happy when I see a text or social media notification from her. And when we hang out I don’t want our time to end. We’ve hung out about 3 times since we made out but haven’t had that happen again because we haven’t been drunk together those times but I would be happy to do it sober. About 2 weeks ago I got so drunk and texted her and kinda told her that I want to hook up with a girl. We have actually talked about this before a while back, before we made out. Not hooking up with each other but just how it’d be fun to have a lesbian experience. Anyways, two weeks ago when I was drunk I told her that if I was gonna have sex with a girl I’d want it to be her. She said she’d have to be drunk and doesn’t know if she could do it sober. Then I asked her how she felt about me and she said that she’d make out with me again and probably hook up with me but doesn’t want a girlfriend. She said she has messed around with women before and is attracted to women but doesn’t want a girlfriend so she doesn’t label herself as bisexual. She said she would be willing to have sex with a girl. We haven’t touched on this again since that night I was telling her this when I was drunk, she was sober though when she said all this. And I’m just so into her I want to do those things with her but I also don’t want to because I actually have feelings. She already said she doesn’t want a girlfriend so I don’t want to get myself hurt or anything so how do I just get over her completely? I just recently recovered from being in love with someone I couldn’t have. I was in love with this person for about 5 years and I have completely healed and am 100% over this person as of 2 years ago. I don’t want to go through this again. Only difference is that this time my friend does seem down to do sexual things with me and it seems like our friendship has been flirty since day one so I feel like at least I have a bigger shot than I did before with the other person. The last person never knew how I felt, this time my friend does (kinda). So I think it’s better this time because I actually told her that I’m attracted to her, but she doesn’t know I actually have feelings for her. I need some advise please I can’t go through this heartbreak again 😞