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See....that's the thing. I don't know if he plans on proposing before or if he's thinking March. It's not like I can ask him. LOL But we've also discussed how ludicrus it is to have a long engagement. We won't need any time to plan a wedding either. This will be my second and he does not want a wedding. We have talked about it being just us somewhere on a beach. Maybe on a cruise or soemthing. I don't feel like I am rushing anything. We were friends for awhile before we considered ourselves dating. I admire him wanting to do it right and I would never want to pressure him into something he isn't ready for. I guess I don't even really know why I posted.....

are you in love with this woman? and she just does not love you back the way you wish? you two need to be on the same page and decide if you still want to spend your money on someone whom you will not have an intimate relationship with but just a friend. i think you are a great person for wanting to help her. but don't let this woman walk all over you for her attention.

Ok, I will try to make this short. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. We have been saying things like "when we get married....." for several months now. He lives 90 miles away and is trying to find a job where I live. He had this "plan". He wanted to get rid of most of his debt, move and then we could get married. Well most of his debt is gone and he should be moving soon (he has an interview this week). Anyway, today, since we don't really talk about it much I asked him when he thought we'd get married. (we are not engaged yet). And he said "I was thinking Marchish". I'm like WHAT? That is 6 months away. I feel deeply disappointed and frustrated now. I don't want to rush into anything and I don't want him feeling pressured but I can't figure out why we've talked about it as much as we have and as close as we are and he's putting 6 more months on it. I appreciate any advice or pep talk that anyone can give. Thanks!

he probably thought you were blowing him off and he didn't want to feel like the fool. you chased him a little so i betcha he'll be calling you soon enough

If it was that serious of a relationship and/or you were together a while it will take a long time to get over. You think you are over it, but you're not. It took me 3 years to get over a divorce. I wasn't in love with him anymore and I didn't want to be with him anymore but it's still disheartening. Like Lokey said, just focus on having a good time. Don't stress about trying to get into deep conversations with these girls. Just have a good time. Think of them as one of the guys. Or better yet, hang out with the guys instead. Give it more time. It will take you falling in love again to realize you really are over that person and what you want is still out there waiting on you.

I am 5'9 and my boyfriend is 5'6. I used to say I would NEVER date anyone shorter than me but I don't think anything of it anymore.

Have you read that book "He's Just Not That Into You"? If not, get it today. The author clearly states that if he does not call he is not that interested. No matter how shy a man is if he really wants to see you again he will work up the balls to call. When you say that he is shy it's just making an excuse for him. If he had to be drunk to call you would you really want to go out with him in the first place?

I started when I was 15 and like someone else said I didn't really know what was up I just happened upon it accidentally. And I haven't stopped since. That was 14 years ago! Maybe your g/f doesn't enjoy it but I bet she's at least tried it. I hate that you haven't had the pleasure of watching her do it. My b/f loves that!

Everyone is telling you to relax and enjoy it. I assume that IS what you are trying to do. If it's your first time (and maybe the next couple of times) it's perfectly normal to be nervous. Take it slow. Don't jump right into it. Do a LOT of foreplay to get you comfortable with being naked and in this position with your g/f. And yes, like someone else mentioned, don't whack off as much. Especially a day or two before you know you are going to have sex.

Hi. This is my first time posting here. I've seen some really good advice and hope to get some for myself. Thanks in advance to everyone. I was married for five years. My husband cheated on me, lied to me, and sneaked around about everything. It made me so insecure. I have been divorced for nearly four years and it is still a problem. I have been dating my current boyfriend for a year. I don't think he would ever cheat on me or even flirt. But I question everything. It's a long distance relationship and that makes it even harder. We are 90 miles apart and only see each other on the weekends. Several months ago we discussed marriage and/or moving in together. He was going to get some finances straight and find a job here and move by August (when his lease was up). Well it's August and I have this awful gut feeling that it's not going to happen and he's not even planning on it soon. He slipped up and said "in 3 months when I move...". He tried to say that's not what he meant and that he meant within 3 months he would be moved. We have been fighting a lot about my insecure issues. One night he was supposed to come to an important dinner with some coworkers and he called to say, just minutes before having to be there, that he wasn't going to make it. He had planned it poorly. It was so important to me! A lot of times he'll say he'll call and then doesn't. A lot of times he says he'll be somewhere and then I'm calling him trying to find otu where he's at. I just feel like our priorities are so different. When I ask him he says we're on the same page. I'm so confused. I don't know if I am supposed to break up with him and move on or work thru all of these things. What doesn't kill us is supposed to make us stronger, right? Aren't these things supposed to bring us closer? All along I have felt more serious about this relationship than he has. I don't know if it's my insecurities or what. I think I have a problem with accepting someone really could love me as much as he says he does and it be real. I don't want to keep accusing him of checking out some other girl or being somewhere that he shouldn't be when he's completely innocent. But I can't help it. I need help getting rid of this insecurity and moving on. I don't want one bad relationship ruining a great one. Has anyone gone thru this and beat it? Thank you so much for taking the time!