I’m 30 and my guy is 33. We both don’t have children and never been married. We started casually dating 8 months ago, going on dates and spending time in the house on the weekends. We never made it official because I honestly didn’t want to commit right away because I wasn’t fully invested in him due to him being distant. He has a military style attitude and doesn’t like to express his feelings. Although we date often, there is little communication in between dates. I explained my concerns and we started to talk a little more but after 8 months we still can’t commit to talking everyday. I’m at the point where I’m ready for a commitment and every time I try to bring it up he runs from the conversation. Honestly I’m not sure if I want to commit to HIM, he checks off some things I want in a partner but the most important thing I want a man to have Is good personality. He’s a nice guy but he’s distant. He doesn’t tell me how he feels or never express if he wants to make things exclusive. He also disappears whenever we have small disagreements or doesn’t get his way. He deals with that by walking away, calls and try to make up 2 days later, and it has beeen a pattern of his. I know no one is perfect But I think these are major red flags. I’m at the point where I want to walk away because there’s no reason why I should have relationship problems with someone I’m not officially with. I think he likes the non spoken understanding we have and doesn’t want more but insist that I still see him every time I try to leave. I’m torn as if I should try to be more vocal and explain to him how I really feel or should I just take his behavior as he’s not interested in anything more and walk away. I’m honestly tired of dating. Before him I was single for two years, I use to go on dates here and there but he’s the only guy ive gotten Physical with and connected with more.
friends/family tell me to give it more time because I’m almost 31 and In a Caribbean household you need to be married and with 3 children by my age lol and that’s why I kept trying but it’s exhausting and I’m not even getting the full him.
Please don’t judge me for what I’m saying next: Honestly I’m scared to be single for another 2 years and have to get to know someone and see if we match or not. Especially coming from a doctors appointment where they telling me if I don’t plan on having children soon then I should have to freeze my eggs!! I know most women will understand we do have a biological clock ticking and to be completely honest I’ve thought about just trying to make it work with him cause i do think he’ll be eventually commit he just won’t do it now. And me I’m not sure about him. So we both still trying to figure it out but it’s been 8 months and no real progress. We both have doubts. Should I end it ?