I've been browsing this forums and it's definitely good to know that I am not the only shy person around.
I was't always been too shy though (I was shy but not to the extent that I am now). I lived in the Philippines for 17 years and I have always been a very outgoing person. Dating was never an issue for me and I had no problems with dealing with the opposite sex (I'm male). However, when I moved to the U.S. 6 years ago, my shyness became a huge issue. I felt very insecure about myself. I felt insecure about money, my looks, how I dress, and especially how I think I measure up against most American men. Most of them are taller (I'm 5'7" and skinny), well built, and more good looking (at least to philippine standards). Intimidation is a huge factor as well. Many filipinos tend to think that white ppl are better than they are but I found out this was not true and both are equal in most aspects.
I am really bothered with this insecurity and it's preventing me from being the person that I am. As I mentioned I have a really outgoing personality and I like to go out and meet women but I always get this feeling that I am not good enough for many Americans women and somehow they look down on me (or I look down on myself when around them). Sure there are nice Filipinas out there but most of them are Americanized and I feel they're pretty much the same as whites, blacks, etc.
This is becoming even more stressful because I am in a situation where I'm around many women everyday. I am a Pharmacy student and there are so many women in my school (mostly white). It really bothers me that I dont have the guts to approach them like I used to back home because I feel that most of them would never even bother dating an Asian. I mean just looking around, I have yet to see an asian guy going out with white girls (w/c I am very attracted to). My insecurities just kicks in and I'm beginning to lose hope in ever being successful with women in the U.S.
I mean it sucks when you are happy with every other aspect in your life (school, career, etc.) but you still feel that you are not good enough or accepted in another culture that values the very things you're good at. Im not unpleasant either, I'm very aware of my manners, I dress good, and im not a jerk.
It doesn't help either when ppl start looking at you or stare at you especially women (some men do this too). I mean I have no clue if women here find me attractive or not. They just look and when I look back they just break eye contact. I mean if they like me wouldn't they at least smile?
I'm just so frustrated...I don't know.. I mean I feel so ugly [short, skinny, asian (not to put some asians down but we are at a disadvantage compared to other ethnicities when it comes to the dating scene), broke (in college and in debt)]. It's just so sad cause I was never this way back home.