Beautifulfallingdown

I'm not having a ceremony it's just a question, I'm to young to even start all that *beep* yet. I'm living life, but I'm mature enough to know what I want for my love life later on at least for the next 15 years or so. And I'm not blind either to the possiblities of my mind being changed later on, but I don't care about that...I live life at the moment, not in the future. and I know all about this being a public forum, and I RESPECT EVERYONE"S opinions and ideas, but I asked a question, and everyone keeps referring to me about it, when I keep saying whatever way I don't care.....I don't want to hear about this involving me, it's my idea about just a happy occaustion nothing more like an anniverisery dinner or whatever! I'm not saying someone stand up and speak above everyone else and declare our relationship to each other, just a oh wow so long you've been together etc. Happens with gf/bf's all the time. I even know (hell they are close friends of mine) who were married and didn't like it, but still love each other and didn't divorce to split up but have stayed together as gf/bf because they enjoy that freedom. OH i dunno, whatever else.

yay, yeah I get what you say....I'm a free spirit , I know with marriage tax breaks could come as well as all the other stuff people here are saying. but I don't care. I do what makes my relationship the best sacrifice or my choice which ever. I'm happy either way. I'm a giver not a taker. haha but thank you for giving your answer and opinions

When I was young my mom had to pick me up every day from school because I would pass out trying to play with the other kids. There is an expert on this disorder in Ohio, in Toledo. I was given a medical braclet you may have the same thing it's called, Neurocardicagenetic syncopoy(spelled wrong no doubt but it's almost correct) My mom has it, worse she can barely walk without breaking out in a sweat rash and getting over heated even being in a air. cond. store. It's a horrible disorder and having weight and exercise problems because of it. THANK GOD SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS I was afriad to post anything involving this because all my life no understands me, I can never do any sort of PE calsses at schools and everyone thinks I fake it being sick and stuff. I wanna hug you too!

not everyone wants marriage, this was about my idea I don't care about anything else I was just asking people their opinion about my idea , not questioning me and how I feel about it now and how my bf feels about it FYI: his father is 47 and his gf is 40 not married

no it's not..... just a party with family and friends, celebrating how long we've been together and going to be together, doesn't sound like a wedding to me

yes no and I want a healthy relationship with the one I love, marriage isn't important to me....I don't care any which way. he doesn't want to get married, I guess I'm not getting married because it isn't important to any one of us. Now if I was with a guy later on in my life, MAYBE I'll get married to him if that is what wil make him happy, then it'll make me happy too.

people I'm not talking about me! if the person I am with wants to get married then I'm fine with getting married if not so be it. He is the one that doesn't care about it and just for facts I know all that stuff, I am pretty smart myself and he knows all this as well. His father has had a girlfriend for the past 17 years and is blissfully happy and unconcerned with marriage. he's a nut he's an artist he knows what he wants, and he doesn't want to get married. I don't care any which way. My idea isn't so out there either. My gay friends had it done because they couldn't get married at the time, but ever since it was made legal they haven't felt it was necessary to do so. I dunno, whatever lol

My boyfriend and I are going along great and I'm not wanting to get married any time soon but it seems we've been watching a lot movies with marriage in them and the topic all ways comes up with my friends who are getting into their thirties and marrying up. I don't want to yet i'm so young and he understands this but when I asked him in the future even if it isn't with me would he get married and he tells me no he wouldn't, whats the point of legal binding to each other when the love you share is the only real thing that matters, why get a church and lgeal government papers invovled. And I said I get that I don't like the idea either and if we were older and you didn't want to get married neither would I. he smiled at this. It made me gigglely. Then I came up with a crazy idea. I asked him what if we were older and we were planning a life long partnership rather than a marriage, like a cermony with out a priest but just someone close to use annoucing our love and life together from now on. He just looked at him then changed the subject. I think he thinks I'm crazy? Is that such a crazy idea?

to everyone who replied thank you so much, I'm going to start walking everyday and I'll start the 6 small meals a day, i'm on third meal already and yes lipo is awful, one i'm to young, second I think thats the easy way out, thrid things can go wrong and if the wegiht doesn't come off and for some reason i gain weight I could gain it back there or worse in other parts of my body, and scars and pain not really my thing. so yeah I'm also taking those swimming classes when I feel to sore or tired to work out in the gym so thanks everyone, i'll post my updates. cheers

god no I don't eat fast foods, and no surgery had it plenty for other things to young in life. Problem with running is I can't anyways, bad knees, the bike hurts but sitting and such helps so not so much pressure on my knees. hell i'm full of bad health problems

personlly I think that you did not do anything wrong AT ALL! When you went over there you were simply meaning to return her property. And I guess you and her mom just started talking. There is nothing wrong with that. It was in completely innocenses. I mean you did say her mother knew her daughters version of the story, so she must have shared your relationship with her so whats the big deal with you sharing your version as well. Maybe this ex-gf of yours (she cheated you say, maybe I'm confused) but maybe she is just afraid to be put into an even worse light with her mother. You said her mother even said you deserve better. So maybe your ex was just upset you telling her your side of it all may worsen everything. From the sounds of your situation alone and the fact of CHEATING you can get better. I know a good judge of how a relationship is, is how the child is with the parents yelling and fighting or not talking at all can be a bad thing for your relationship, (not sure what the problem was but I hope you understand) (an example of mine judgement of a relationship using this method was I dated a guy who's mother never showed him much love or attention and he in turn was screwed up and has problems, controlling, ex. Kind of what you'd expect if someone wnated your attention badly enough and sometimes you couldn't give that you know what i mean.) Hope this help's, any other details about your realtionship you'd like to give, that may support anything i've said for to clarify anything I'd be happy to do that Take care.

Okay hi ya'll anyway here's the scoop. I weigh 162-to 165 but thats all normal I'm a girl so blah. But besides that I'm 5'5 -'6 and have a pants size of 13-14 now, I want to be a 9-10 or an 8 even. I wouldn't say I'm over weight but I am packen in some not so wanted weight and I think seeing the rate I'm going, if my sadness about this continues I might become over weight and I can't let that happen. I have slightly fatty arms, and a tummy that makes me look kind of pregnant but I'm not, and fat thighs on the inside of my legs, and some baggage around my hips. I started working out a month and a half ago, I work out at the gym four times a week monday through thursday and do crunches and sit ups and a few small things at home. I'm not trying to build muscle and I know the difference between fat burn workouts and building strength and muscle workouts. So I've been doing the lightest to the second lightest weight I can use and doing fast reps for my arms and legs, I ride the bike at the gym for 30 mins, and then do the ab machine on the lowest to second lowest weight possible as fast as I can as many reps as I can. I also own a sports pro bike that I use on the days I don't go to the gym or even in mornings. I eat right, three meals a day, plenty of water, not so much slurpes and candy bars, or donuts anyting like that, and usually have one snack between lunch ad dinner. My mom knows alot about proper eating and she's helped me with the right number of calories and such to eat per day as my weight suggests. But NOTHING IS WORKING. I put my heart and soul into all this. I"M STILL 160 and up! Now I know all above seems or may seem like I"m a workout health nt but thats not the case, monday through thursday it's a mere hour to an hour and half workout because that is all I can do. I have a unique and rare over heating condintion where I don't sweat so I get on overload and could risk a trip to the emergency room, but I do the best I can. after reading this, can anyone give me any help or ideas on what I could possibly do different that may result in something. I know results won't happen over night but I'd figure I'd at least feel somewhat better in my day or see a little difference in how my clothes fit. Also I'm not wanting to lose lots of weight, maybe 10-15-20 pounds. Can anyone help me? Ps: as a result of all this I feel like *beep*. I don't want to be touched by anyone, I don't like hugs anymore, I am scared to let my boyfriend hug me afraid of what he'll feel and he'll leave even though he says I should be doing this for myself because he doesn't care any which way I look, as long as I'm not slimy and growing antlers and my eyes have turned into footballs and are black non blinking thingys (his words not mine). I don't want to feel like this anymore, it's not nice. Also I'm not able to buy any drugs, or tv equipment stuff, I don't think i'd work and using drugs blha how dangerous is that. PLEASE everyone

I've been with this guy for 9 months now and I don't know what my problem is. Well that's not true i know what my problem is I just don't get it or what to do about it. See this guy, he is different in almost every way from all the other guys I've dated, the biggest difference is that I'm happy with him, and he makes me happy. BUt then again that is the biggest worry I have. he treats me really good, and respects me but I'm afraid he's hurting me or doing something or going to do something that will hurt me. See I was in past relationships where someone almost raped me, someone controlled me and abused me in every possible way, and one guy treated me like my boyfriend now, but then changed so immediately it felt like I was hit or something, and then it all went to hell. And I don't want this to happen with this, I really like and feel safe with him, but I can't get these thoughts out of my mind. What if what if what if!? He always jokes about other girls, he is flirty and outgoing and it worries me if something happens. I'm still shy around him. And I'm worried all this stuff I'm thinking and worrying about is going to tear me apart and our relationship. He says he loves me and I love him, I am just afriad if I let go and be completely vulnerable I'm going to be hurt again, and worse this time because I love him, truly( my past relationships I thought I loved those guys, i've learned my lesson it was stupid, i've some experience in this that I know I really do love this guy everything is different.) he cares for me, protects me, stands up for me, makes me feel better, listens to me, so why can't I let go? Why can't I be myself and enjoy the relationship instead of worrying about everything thing that happens and every move I make afriad it's all going to go to hell and crush me completely.