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Guys, do you tell your descriptive stories to girls in person or on the phone? What's better? Also have some of you simply gone on coffee dates to start things off between you and a date? Or have many of you gone the traditional route: Activity, walk together, dinner, finish.

just wondering if anyone else had a new take on this topic

does anyone else have any suggestions?

Do you usually hang out with a friend every single weekend, or one friend on this weekend, another friend on the next? Another question: How do you avoid your friendships from slipping back into acquaintances? Example, "lets meet at the show, man." Then later on in time it becomes "There's another show that you could go to." or "Yeah, I hear it's going to be a cool show. Anyways man, I gotta go. Bye."

the reason why I posted is because I don't want to become so involved with a girl intimately that I can't properly balance out my own social life and meet new friends while doing things on the weekends. I fear that sex might lead to the kind of commitment that will make me lose my focus on other things socially. (not job or academics) On the other hand if I have female friends then I can be single and go to parties that they've thrown for a variety of people in the summer or fall. An option that would be excellent for me is to have a large set of female friends that are strictly platonic..they're like sisters to me, while being with a girl who is just like me: Not ready and available for the full responsibility of being in a relationship yet enjoys the perks of it. That would be the ideal situation, especially if I wisely keep both areas separate. I have a hetero male friend who is the perfect model. Lots of ladies love him and he's developed strong bonds with them. But he hasn't had sex with any of them. Instead, they'll invite him to a party or if there's a music concert he will go with one or two of them. I've yet to learn how he became successful at balancing his urges (because I know that all males have them) with his social interest to develop female friendships. Personally, I think I should develop more female friendships to make up for the unfortunate experiences that I've had with females while growing up. I was the loser back then, and most females in grade school thought I was un-interesting, weird, and less of a boy. I was ignored. Had no girlfriend until I was in my senior year of highschool. I became jealous that other boys had naturally vibed with girls at an early age, and since then they have become close in adulthood. For example, I know another male friend who is a music DJ. He's gotten so much support from his friends, but mostly from his female friends.

I'm at a crossroads. The girl generally likes me, even though we haven't gone on a date yet. I'll still need to find out if she wants a fling for the summer or if she's looking for a relationship or if she just wants to be friends. The problem is, I'm trying to decide that for myself as well. I'm in my mid-twenties. So guys, what would you REALLY prefer for a satisfying summer? Meet girl a, girl b, c, date them and eventually we become intimate? Or would you choose to make new female friends? What if you were in a situation where you had only one female friend, but you didn't make any moves with her for various reasons INCLUDING that you didn't want to mar the friendship by having sex? The new girl that I'm going to date hasn't said or put out the message that she wants to only be friends, so I have a choice. Bottomline, I want to have sex and spend time intimately with a girl this summer b4 that opportunity is lost due to the fall schedule. (I'm sure that's on everyone's mind) Finally, I regret that I didn't have alot of female friends (my play sisters) when I was a kid because if it were so, I wouldn't have to worry about deciding whether or not my date shouldl be a friend or a lover. The good news is that I am confident that I can attract females and my first dates have been successes!