I'm not a troll if that's what you're suggesting. I stumbled upon these boards after watching people I know fall into these horrible relationship problems that failed because of the most trivial things or they got involved with the wrong people. I actually thought I could be a useful contributor here. The intent of this post was to validate my usefulness by obtaining both differing and validating opinions. So far on this thread, it appears that the differing opinions are the vast majority. That's perfectly fine although I've now been accused of being disingenuous, toxic, going on tirades, combative, and chauvinistic. Maybe some of my advice is not what people want to hear so I will politely move on.