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it's a turn on.

Lol! Jeff, that was a very accurate description. Sometimes I feel like I'm sitting in Charlie Brown's classroom. All I hear is "wah wah wah." Staying focused is hard sometimes. anggrace, yes it's so annoying! Hope, I wonder if I'll end up moving on like you did. It is hard because she's not a bad person...and I like her so much but at times it's so hard. I appreciate the responses.

I have a friend that I'm pretty close to. I like her because she can be sweet at times, but she can be annoying. When we talk, all she does is complain about the same things over and over. It's like she never even comes up for air! If I try to throw my two cents in, she would talk right over me, or pause and continue talking like I never said anything. I shouldn't have to raise my voice to the point of almost yelling to get her attention. That's not me. (I must note in person she's not as bad.) The conversation is usually all about her. She may ask me what I'm doing when we first start a conversation, but besides that it's just her complaining about different aspects of her life. She has acknowledged that I'm a great friend and she feels really fortunate to have me around, but sometimes talking to her brings me down. I know that if I'm having too great of a day, I either ignore the call and call her later, or I don't talk too long. I want to be there for her, but sometimes I just can't at certain moments in time. I've learned to take her in doses because I don't want to get sick of her to the point of no return. I feel like I'm a rock for everyone else, but who's truly there for me? Anybody out there ever feel this way?

are you sure that a penis is all she wants? If so, then you can buy a penis and strap it on. It's possible for her to want to experience someone else and lack penis isn't the issue. If that's the case then I suggest giving her space because you may get yourself hurt. Give her time to figure out if she wants to be with you.

I agree with NJRon 100%.

How old are you? I have to tell you that we've all been through some * * * *ty times, but they don't stay that way. You just have to have patience. What type of town do you live in? Is it a small one where everyone knows one another? You might want to try different activities that may interest you and try meeting new friends. Your friends suck. They actually aren't your friend if they say * * * * like that about you. You aren't a loser. Don't let anybody make you believe you are. I've been out of school a while. I know many of the 'popular' kids who have turned out to be what many would call a loser. I also know many so called losers who have turned out to be the money makers, the person every one wants to know, the life of the party. I guess what I'm saying is that you go thru the hard times and that shapes you in the future. It won't be like this forever, but I pray you stick it out to find out what the future holds. Please don't kill yourself. Your life is very precious. Stick it to those who call you names by showing them you're the opposite. Stay around for a while. Grow. Try new things. Get the hell off the computer and try something new. You deserve. You're not a loser.

The best way to please her is to find out what she likes and do it. If you don't want to ask then you might want to try doing the things you like and maybe she'll like them. Take your time with her. Savor it.

Fox, sorry you had to go through all of this. Your mom is accepting of you, but doesn't fully understand the issue at hand. Maybe it needed to unfold this way because deep down there are some things she doesn't understand. She seems to be in conflict. She was taught her whole life that homosexuality is wrong, but the son she absolutely adores is gay. Although things are getting out of hand, I look at it as a way for you and your mom to keep the dialogue open. It's good that everything is being brought out in the open instead of her harboring feelings for a long time. Now she's getting answers from you and getting your perspective even more. Your mom still loves you just the way you are. I'm glad that she realises she was swayed a little by your family. I'm even happier that you can finally just be.

Oh, and yes I do agree with the person that you should be weary of the person who asks too many questions. The funny thing is that when I really care about a person as a friend, I ask them questions because I'm trying to really get to know them. Sometimes you can tell if someone is doing it to be sneaky or if they genuinely want to know.

I can relate to what everyone is saying. That whole catty thing that females do isn't really me. From what some of you described, my actions could have been mistaken as jealousy. I have an acquantance that I see sometimes. She's very pretty and always looks nice, but one day she wore an outfit that was very flattering. The style of it was different for her as well. I told her how nice she looked. I looked her up and down because I just wasn't used to her dressing that way. I wasn't jealous, but she looked really nice and felt she deserved the attention. But, yes, many females do get jealous and don't like to give compliments. Also, you may be in an uncomfortable situation, but it has nothing to do with jealousy. Like hanging out with a couple who look like they need a hotel room. Doesn't mean your jealous, but uncomfortable. Like you shouldn't be there. Although I think it's pretty easy to pick up on jealousy, it may be easy to confuse jealousy for discomfort that has nothing to do with jealousy.

If I really liked the guy I would stay in contact but let him get out of the situation himself. It may be something that he feels he needs to accomplish alone. Many men don't like depending on women. He wouldn't need to have a 6-figure income or anything, but it would be good to see progress being made. Even if he got a job washing dishes and stayed with someone or rented a room would be a start. As long as he doesn't try to depend on me to get him out of his situation (I'm not saying homeless people in general do this). I recently liked a guy who really didn't have his life in order. He was close to homelessness. I tried to look past it because he had so many other good qualities, but he turned out to be the dependent type. That's a real turn off. Needless to say I am no longer interested. As far as the money question, it depends on the woman. For me, I like a man's drive and confidence if anything. If he has money I won't complain.

I agree with Sexychiick. You should try to talk to her if you still desire her friendship

Avman, thank you for that advice. That's the best advice I've heard in long time. You stated everything perfectly. I know for sure that I'm going to take a break from her. If she steps it up on her part then great. If not then oh well. Maybe we can stay acquainted. Maybe not. Take care!

I consider myself to be a great friend. I'm always there for all of my friends, especially for a certain one in particular. When she needs someone to lean on I'm there. She knows that she can always count on me even when she can't with others. If she's down, I even take the time to listen to her even when I have something to do. Today my friend really hurt my feelings. I told her something kind of personal because I needed to vent. I wasn't crying, but it was obvious that I was a little shaken. She gave me her undivided attention for like 30 seconds, but as soon as we turned the corner and she saw one of her friends waiting for her she kept walking and basically told me good-bye. She didn't ask how I'm doing, she didn't express concern for me, didn't express sympathy. She just said something along the lines of "that's the way life is". I think I already know that! The funny thing is she sees this other friend of hers quite often and they were just hangin out as usual. I know if the shoe was on the other foot, I would have atleast told my friend who was waiting on me to just hold on for a few minutes while I continued my conversation with her. Or I would have just expressed my concern for her and told her we can pick up the conversation another time because someone is waiting on me. I am so sick of being there for people who can't be there for me. I spend most of the time listening to other people's problems (especially hers) and talking about them. I'm not usually the type who opens up completely about personal things because I often regret it. This is one of those cases. She's a good person and I care about her a immensly, but I just realised that she's not a true friend. I think that I'm going to distance myself from her. It's just unfortunate because I really valued the friendship. The one time out I needed her, she wasn't there.

I would ask her how she feels about the whole situation and then go from there.

I agree with Tigris. The first thing that came to mind is that they had this all planned in order to test you. If you don't want to reveal your sexual orientation, the break up story is not a bad idea. However, you can just let them know you're not interested in the party and maybe just start distancing yourself. Your mom is cool and she knows what she's talking about. Time away from your friends does mean you'll be able to work on yourself. You're going to look back on this and laugh. Everything will work out ok.

I can only speak for myself. Your friend seems like a user and is playing games. I would call it quits and not even worry about whether or not he calls.

I agree with hk87, if she's a good friend, then she'll continue being your friend. I've had friends admit their feelings and it was no big deal. If anything, I was kind of flattered because someone I thought highly of thought that way about me. In some instances we even grew closer, or more comfortable with eachother. However, I've had a few who nagged me too much and that pushed me away. I must warn that sometimes being intimate can ruin a friendship. I had a very close friend who I eventually caught feelings for. We started dating and he started acting different. In response, I started to do the same. Looking back I don't think he was a genuine friend. I say go for it. I know it hurts to have feelings for someone and not be able to tell them how you truly feel. I wish you the best.

You're not hurting anyone, so I don't think there's a problem with it. The way I look at it, how can loving someone so much be "wrong." Others may think it's wrong, but that's subjective. Only you can live your life. Nobody else knows what it's like to be you. I say if people have a problem with who you decide to lie down with, then it sucks for them. However, given your environment I understand why it's easier said than done. How many more years do you have left at school?

RayKay, I'm extremely sorry to hear about your mom. I only read your initial post, but I wanted to let you know that I will be praying for your mom and your family. Although I don't know what it's like to be in your shoes exaclty, I can relate. My mother passed away from cancer when I was 19. I never new my maternal grandparents because they died fairly young also. My mom never saw 43 and neither did her mother. The way you described your mother reminds me so much of my own. It's been a while but I still really do miss her. At times, I think about how I never knew my grandparents and how, if blessed with kids, my mom will have never known them and vice versa. I think about how life sounds so silent now. I just hope that your mom gets better and you don't even have to worry about that which is why I would say try to focus on the present and her getting better (but I know things are better said than done). I really do pray that she gets better. Be that rock that she can hold on to. It seems like she's done the same for so many for so long. She seems like an awesome person.

I want to thank you both for your replies! Can't wait to try out your suggestions.

I agree with Cooperstown 100%.

I say you take Nike's advice and just do it. Go up to her and talk to her. The hardest part is mustering up the guts to take the first few steps, after that it's not so bad. Look at it like this: you could be one of the many guys that she never even glances at. There's nothing wrong with starting small talk by asking if you two attended the same high school. Kyoshiro, you never know if you're her type until you try. Who knows, she may not be your type. Also, there's more to a man than just looks. Confidence can get you a long way. It's really sexy. Something you definitely want to have. I wish you the best!

I wish I had something more positive to say, but it sounds like he already got what he wanted and his interest level to a nose-dive. Whatever the issue may be, if he really likes you enough, he'll at least call to see how you're doing, or after things supposedly get better (and I'm not talking about calling when he wants to get some). I can only speak for myself. I wouldn't call him. I'd move on. Actions speak louder than words. If he really does like you, I don't think you'd have to guess about. I know you know the same deep down, it just sucks because you finally feel like you met someone that's on your level. Just like you met him, someone else will come along.

After a short period of not eating well, I've decided to start eating healthy again. The thing is I'm really sick of eating the same dishes over and over again. Does anyone have any simple recipes or snacks that they like to eat that aren't too time consuming? It doesn't really matter as long as pork and red meat aren't included. Vegetarian and vegan are welcome.