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wow.... ummm all I have to say is since when do your parents have anything to do with your sex life? I know they are your parents, and they are looking out for you. But if they expect you to not have sex for a year and a half, they must be really out of their minds. I understand they are probably disappointed, but believe me... if you dont know now, you will soon learn. As much as your parents want to stop you and what you do, they cant, they can only give you advice, and let you learn from what YOUR life brings you. Another thing, you should not blame yourself... or kick yourself for anything. Obviously you were "ready" for that step in your relationship with your boyfriend. It isnt like, they are going to chain your pants closed... so he cant get it. Just think about it... my mum told me to wait, told me.. to be careful, I was... but I still did I what I did when I was your age, no one stopped me... and believe me, parents dont have much of say with your life, your relationships, and definatly your sex life.... take care, hope my words will make you realise a little.

dont mean to be rude, but "You" are going to work on your relationship. From what you have mentioned about him, doesnt seem like he is willing to "work" on anything. You should have stood your ground from the start, never in any relationship should there be "rules" to not talk to the opposite sex. Im sorry maybe if you lived on some island, or other planet... that is were you will never come accross the opposite sex in your life.. work, school, ect. Another thing, it just seems like you are defending him with what everyone else is telling you. Way to deep in deniel to know that you are in something wrong, and bad. Like I said good luck.

I know you will think Im a b*tch for saying this... but believe me, when I say.. you dont "LOVE" him, you are used to him, and infatuated with him. I thought I was in "LOVE" too. That word is missused to often, and when it is true love... when you feel flawless, when your boyfriend makes you feel beautiful when you feel like crap, he loves every inch of you, you love every inch of him, and last but not least you two trust one another... I know you feel like you cannot go a day without him, but sometimes its best be without him. In your case, I really think you should just let go, you are worth far more then the way you are feeling lately. In the end, you'll know what Im talking about. But I guess everyone has to learn on their own, and all I have to say is good luck. I broke up with my ex boyfriend, and ever since I have never ever been so happy. My new boyfriend... well not new, but not the ex.. I have been with him for over a year now, and believe me.. you will know when it is love, true love. Some people dont think that it exsists. But I know it does. We never argue, he's never made me cry. He is my best friend, and I trust him with my life... Dont give up on yourself, just know you are better no matter what... sorry I kinda blabbed on, hopefully my words will mean something...

wow.. I dont mean to judge, but you and your boyfriend have some very big issues. If I could say one thing to you you should just end this relationship before it gets uglier. Im not just saying this, to say it. Im telling you this because I was in a similair relationship. You two both seem like you have no trust in your relationship and jealosy has taken over. For your sake, because you are a woman and will most definatly feel more emotions from this all. You should just end it as nicely as you can. You dont deserve to be hurt. Or felt like you are worthless. Im sure you are beautiful and Im sure that you hate feeling like less then you are. No one deserves that, and the computer checking I went through the same paranoia, its not healthy for you nor him. I hope my words will help you, I know you two must care for each other, but I dont think it will be worth it in the end. I ended my relationship with my ex, who sounded just like yours... and I have never been happier.

Im going to give you some advice my mum gave me... When she said it I was about 17.. and who at 17 takes there mums' advice. So ofcourse I went and dated good looking guys, popular guys all throughout high school and so on. Anyways.. back to the advice part.. She always told me, the not so "cool" guys, and the not so gorgous guys... are always the "prince charmings"... I had to learn the hard way of course. I, just like you dated... or seemed to find myself around, the guys I can "show off"... anyways, So all of my ex's are the biggest, most selfish... *******s... (you know what Im saying..) Until I finally decided to listen to my mum, and I completely fell for "the not gorgous, quieter guy"... We've been together for a year now, and Ive never ever felt the way I do, and I know its because he treats me like a queen. I say just go for it... If its ment to happen it will happen, if you have feelings... dont second guess it. Follow your heart... if its your heart guiding you, you'll never be wrong.

You know the saying, "To love someone, you have to love yourself, and be comfortable in your own skin".. well Im not sure exactly what it is like to be you, and have that sort of skin problem, but what I can tell you is... to follow your heart. No matter how self consious you feel, just go for it. You have nothing to loose. If he doesnt like you for everything you are then... he's not worth it. Just smile and know that your beautiful no matter what anyone else thinks of you... confidence is the most beautiful part of any person, Not co*kiness, or being full of yourself.. but confidence knowing that you are beautiful inside and out. Not sure if my reply will help, but I thought I would let you in on my 2 cents.

Thank you all for your replies... I know everyone of you has a good point, and if I dont want to share mine then I shouldnt ask, but its hard to not be curious you know?... No Im not concered about STD'S or anything of that sort, we have protected sex and he wouldnt be the one to hide something like that. Raykay- I completely agree to what you said about what matters now, is that we are I am the one he is with now.... But again thank you for all the replies, I think I will just keep this issue to myself, unless he brings it up... I dont want to be the one thinking of the "other girls".. and I definatly dont want him to be thinking of anything in my past. Thanx a bunch everyone, I'll keep you all posted if I end up blabbing it out one of these days...

advice from a girl, its sucks I agree that she is flirting like that. But she might not have any interest in him at all. She just might be looking for attention overall, and because your hurt by they way she is acting Im sure your backing away, maybe not enough for her or you to notice, but when something bothers a person they tend to put up a wall. In my opinion that is the last thing you should do if you really care for her. Just talk to her, again this is what I think. Just ask her if you are what she wants, dont start an argument about it or accuse her of anything... but simply ask her if she is completely happy with you. good luck

Im not sure what your work situation is, but if your not to busy with your day at work, maybe call her or message her somehow, and let her know your thinking of her, sometimes just little things like that can make someones day.

I have been with my boyfriend for a year. He is the sweetest, caring, and most loving guy I have ever met. I know alot of things are better left unsaid about the past and other relationships. But I cant help but wonder? We are both 20 now, and we met when we were 19. I know we both have dated other people, but he hasnt been in a serious relationship (serious meaning, longer then 5 months)... and I guess that is what leaves me curious. How many people has he slept with? We have good communication between us, we can talk about anything and everthing. I know he would tell me if I were to ask him, but I am afraid to ask... because I dont want him to ask me. Even though I dont know foresure, I just think I have been with more then he has, and I wouldnt want him to think of me less. So I guess all Im asking is do you think I should go and ask? Get it out in the open, or just not bother with it. Just wanted to say thank you ahead, if anyone replies to this.

I wouldnt say your boyfriend was being very selfish, just immature. Obvioulsy he doesnt have his priorities straight if his car is more important then his girlfriend getting some time off from her three jobs to relax, I dont know. Im sure you care for him alot, and he does for you as well. But in my opinion if his parents keep bailing him out of his depts and you go on not telling him how you feel about his spending, he'll only get worse. Even if you feel like you will sound selfish, because it is his money. But you both took a responsiblity living together, that means two people right?.. not one working their butt off?.. am I right?.. well I just thought I would give my $0.02 ... good luck!

I know exactly how you feel. I have been with my boyfriend for a year next week, acually. Im not a materialistc person, and I dont want anything huge or expensive... My boyfriend is the sweetest guy Ive ever met, he's very loving and caring. But I just feel like I am alot more thoughtful then he is. For one Valentines day we discussed that we wouldnt do anything big or dramatic he's in college and so am I, and we just were strapped for money. But I made him cupcakes and I got him a card and he didnt do anything. For my birthday... we went to dinner, and even though he was supossed to have something made for me, (it didnt end up happening, something went wrong with the order) But something as little as a piece of paper wishing me a happy birthday and that he cares for me, would have been nice. I mean if he would have walked down the street and picked me a flower, I would have been thrilled. I am more then sure he loves me, and cares for me. He shows it by just being so kind and caring. For next weekend, our one year. I made reservations to a beautiful country Inn and Spa, he knows nothing about it yet. But I am just worried... that well again, it will kind of be a more of just my efforts put into that weekend, and as small as I think these things are Im just afraid of telling him, because I dont want to sound selfish or needy. Just sometimes, I guess its nice to be told someone is thinking of you.... Just thought I would write and share my story... but I think I'll take everyones advice and maybe talk with him about these feelings...