Streblo_Minority

hi- i was wondering.. what would an appropriate present be for my boyfriend of almost a year? let me explain the situation- he asked me out last year 8 days after valentines day. so we've been dating for a year on the 22nd. this is confusing to me cause am i supposed to get him a present? and if i do should i also get him a one year present or should i combine them and what would be a good thing to get him? should it be like a birthday present or one of those stupid stuffed bear things at the card shops? any input would be great! thanks!

well, you could talk to him about it. he might still be shy around you and doesnt know for sure whether its 'okay' to hold your hand through a movie or how 'public displays of affection' would go over with you. OR, he might have a problem with those things. theres no of knowing until you talk to him, so go chat it up!

In health class there was always talk about how pot was the 'gateway' drug. The kids who were sitting in that health class treat this piece of information like all the other information obtained in a health class is treated... its ignored. sure, at the time it didnt seem like it meant a whole lot. but as a friend of mine and i were studying for senior year midterms one of us asked the other if they ever wondered what 'being high' was like. 1 year later one of the friends has completely left behind the entire drug scene. the other one hasnt. but shes not bad. not yet. a few months later one of the friends has a boyfriend. the other has gotten kicked out of her house thanks to drugs (specifically shrooms). a few months later one of the friends still has her boyfriend, is very happy just being herself and has recently also quit smoking cigarettes. the other friend steals, lies and acts obnoxiously high whenever shes stoned. shes also added several other drugs to her lifestyle (namely cocaine, which is what im really worried about). i know now that shes just going to slip further and further into the world of drugs and i need to do something. shes been my best friend for as long as i can remember. if i tell her mom then shell just get kicked out of her house (which would accomplish what?) and seeing how shes no longer in school the next highest authorities i could go to would be the police (which is what im trying to save her from). i dunno, any ideas?

yea, i agree... calm down, youve got a LOT of time

something seems to be bothering him. you need to talk to him, try and get him to open up about whats going on in his mind. not to worry you or anything, but it sounds freakishly close to how my boyfriend was acting before he broke up with me. DONT WORRY! we got back together a few days later and its been better than ever before.. but what im getting at is this- if i had realised that something was wrong BEFORE he broke up with me and confronted him about it, then it never would have happened. well, good luck with that! and dont worry.

hey, im a teenager just getting out of my teenager years and like you, ive been extremely happy. i think one of my reasons for my happiness is feeling like im needed. and theres a definate reason for this. when i was a junior in high school i noticed that there were a ton of people who ate lunch by themselves, were crying in the hallways, cutting themselves, etc... it seemed like they didnt have many friends who cared about them so whenever i saw them i would always go up to them and ask them how they were doing, if they needed someone to talk to, etc.. it takes a while for a person to be able to open up to you but once they do they trust you. you instantly become their best friend for the simple act of showing them that theres actually someone who cares. sure it doesnt seem like much to just say 'hi' to someone who looks lonely in the halls, but it has a huge effect on them. and its not like theyre bad people either. in fact, most of my best friends are the ones i made by doing this. heh, sorry this is so long, but its sorta complicated in a simplistic kind of way. this didnt seem so meaningful while i was in high school.. but when i graduated i had about 3 people come up to me and tell me how much this meant to them. one even told me that if i hadnt talked to her she would have gone through with suicide. so congradulations on being happy! now go spread that happiness around to your less happy peers! heh, just a thought

well as far as being more specific... we make out.. a lot. mostly cause its the only thing we can think of without going as far as sex. theres been touching from both of us both under and over the clothes (he told me to stop touching him tho because it got him too close to the urge to have sex). however, weve never taken our clothes off in front of one another. basically, were extremely comfortable with each other. theres not a lot that we wont be willing to try. we just need to make sure we dont take that one extra leap into an uncontrollable situation. thanks again!

hey there. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 months today (wow, thats a weird coincidence..) anyways, were both extremely religious and deeply believe in the 'no sex before marriage' idea. lately its gotten hard to live by this. in fact, we had to separate about two weeks ago because of this strain on our relationship (we got back together just 5 days later, but it was still hurtful to both of us). anyways, what im getting at is this- how can we make our 'inimate' moments intense and meaningful without having sex? any ideas in terms of games, movements, etc? thanks a ton!