I am 45 and my partner is 52. We were together 3 years. We had bumps but overall it was a very good relationship. Deep friendship and perfectly matched sexually. Both professionals so we mostly spent weekends together and made phone calls during the week. Once a day or so.
We spent lots of times among his lovely friends ( mostly couples). A week ago, we were at the BBQ at his friend. Suddenly became cold so we all went inside and we all started to watch something on TV. I was uncomfortable on my chair and did not see well so I asked my partner to swap seats with me, at least for a bit. He refused and laughed off that he was ok. About an hour later, I asked again and he refused again. His friends laughed. I was not. Someone else offered his seat but I politely declined.
At home, I mentioned I was upset with him. I also said that knowing him, he would offer his seats to everyone but refused to give me when asked. He got very upset. He said I was being princess and he will not be doing what he was told. He also said I embarrassed him a front of his friends. He told me " f...you" He said that twice.
it was midnight so I went to bed and left his house in the morning. He saw me leaving. We both did not say a word. I was shocked to hear these words.
I have not heard from him for a week. This has never happened before. We had disagreements but a day or two and he apologised or me...we never left it for more than 3 days.
I was gutted. He called after a week and sounded still angry. He said he did not expect me to leave his house without a word. He also wanted to see if I will get in touch first. He seemed surprised I expected apology but he did eventually apologised. I also did, for my part. We argued some more and he asked me what do I want. I said I want end it. He dropped the phone on me. I emailed to explain that he disappeared for a week and cant expect we will be fine.
He sent me text to arrange collection of my stuff. He said he accepted my decision.
I have a seconds thoughts now. I do love him but I did not want to let him get away with swearing and leaving me for a week. I am heartbroken.
What to do now?