Thank you, I have never had this magnitude of a break up and been so emotionally invested in trying to fix it. I lived with her this summer and it was a stressful time in life for the both of us. We weren't really there for eachother how we shouldve been. I have accepted that she is moving on although the thought of her with someone else is lethal. There are a lot of things that I found great about her, and like many of you said, thats part of the process of grieving.
We called last night. We laughed about how down the line we might have feelings for eachother still, or maybe she would miss me and i would have already moved on, and the timing would be off. Whatever it may be, we were talking about that and it gave me hope which I should let go of. It was a light hearted convseration. It was painful when I realized that it may be the last one. She seemed to be much stronger than I was when talking. We were both very calm because we knew it was over. I need to tell myself that its over so I dont keep hanging on forever.
She told me that she could not imagine herself dating anyone else , but she knows she doesnt want to date me. I know this is the case because its early and I dont want to be fooled by thinking she is going to call me crying that she made a mistake and is on her way to me right now. Realistically, she moved on before I did. She is also at a stage of grieving and she too will get over this probably more quickly than I will because I was invested much longer.
I guess what i'm trying to convey is I just cant see myself without this person. They were such a source of happiness to be and I feel so empty that they are gone. I know I should be working on creating happiness for myself, so I am more suited to be in a relationship but man it hurts.
Does anyone have advice as far as getting over this? I have thought about therapy, and currently are talking with friends, family, and trying to distract myself as best I can. I just having a hard time trying to see why she wasnt worth it in the long run because I cleary had a moment of realization when I initially cut ties 2 days ago.