Miss Keisha

Well, if your friendship is as strong as you say it is, it can survive this. i think that you should let her know, for your own sanity, cause in that way you know whether or not you may have a chance and in that way you know how to classify that friendship. Whichever way, since u r promising to be a man about the outcome, it won't make much of a difference what she says now, will it? Go for it.

It seems to me like this guy wants to be in your life for a long time, so are going to be quiet for those three or more years that he sees between you. Well, I guess the easiest thing that you have to do is start by talking about mutual interests and then go on from there. You have to be able to communicate or you will not see those three years that you are thinking of. make an effort to draw him out more if he is rather shy or cant talk. Talk about the general stuff that does not involve you or him, it helps in breaking the ice.

From my own personal experience, its never really easy to get over someone that you were in love with but I think that it largely depends on whether or not you have the willpower to do so. I think that in this case, your case is made more difficult because you work together, but you just have to hang in there. Ok, back to this issue about losing the baby, from the previous posts I think that she is remorseless and that she is also vindictive and looking for a way to hurt you. I think that its possible that she might also have had an abortion, just to get back at you, knowing how much this baby meant to you, or like avman said she might just be trying to get rid of you. Just keep your eyes open, and heres hoping that you will eventually find someone who is looking at having the same things in life with you and that you will eventually have that child that you want. I feel you and hope that you will get over this woman cause she sure doesn't deserve u.

Stickman Seems to me like there is a part of you that is living in the hope that she is going to want to get back with you, I guess what you have to do is to be open with yourself, and start from the top. You have to analyse what YOU have to do. In this instance, seeing as she is seeing someone else and it has been 4 months, i think it is only accurate in saying that she is not entertaining any thoughts of getting back to you, but because she is keeping in touch she wants to make sure that you still want her, which is good for her ego, and by quickly jumping to her beck and call and letting her know that youare so keen on what is happening in her life, you are setting yourself up for a more painful fall. Just let go, and stop obsessing oabout her so much. Time heals all wounds, but on the condition that you do not concentrate much on that wound. Get a grip and move on, and get yourself someone else. Stop feeling guilty for moving on cause I gather that is what is happening here. MOVE ON!!!!!!!

I think that the email was straight to the point, and though the real need to send it to her is very minimal. I guess that sending it to her will also emphasise to her that, like her, you have no plans for the two of you as a couple. However I think that maybe you should let sleeping dogs lie and move on as this is a closed chapter. You don't really need to be friends anyway( my honest opinion), just friendly, so whether or not she offered the friendship, you could also reject it in the same vein, [i am not saying that you should], just that you should consider all the angles, and really see whether this whole friendship issue is worth pursuing.

Well, I think that this woman is experiencing the highs and lows of her breakdown and its rather unfortunate that you are caught on the receiving end all the time. I guess if you truly love her, maybe you can just give it a bit of time and in the interim be prepared for all eventualities. Good luck.

I think that you are expecting too much from this guy just because he is now your boyfriend. However I think that you should talk to him and explain things and how you are feeling. U have to realise that he has other things and people in his life besides you okay, so don't fret much. Or maybe, you guys were meant to be frenz?????? Hate to say that, but its an angle. Good luck anyways.