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Jennna

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  1. I do realize that if we were to marry that I would leave my parents. But that's not the only thing...just to clarify. In this exact order. He wants to buy a $430,000 or (in that range) batchelor pad type house. Then, he is leaving his job of 21 yrs. and losing lots of benefits and retirement money to open a business that he knows nothing about. If he stays at his current job, he can retire early in 8 yrs. His new vape business isn't even up and running yet so he doesn't know if it's even going to succeed. So, buy a very expensive house, quit his current job and hope that the new business prospers and can pay his high house payment, expensive monthly rent on new business and car payment on his new sports car. Just seems backwards to me and alot to take on at once and alot of risk involved. I'm concerned and have tried talking to him but he says for me not to worry. I think he's going to be over in his head but he wants my support. I'm a realist and can't just go along with something and say what someone wants to hear when I think it's a bad thing. But I will have to support this dream if I want to continue being with him. Thank you all!
  2. EDIT:::: (I added, reworded some things to clear up my last post)Wiseman2 Thank you! No, no marriages for either of us but we have talked about it 3 or so months ago. I hadn't really ever wanted to get married before but I thought we had become stronger and more secure in our relationship. He told me that he didn't know that I wanted to get married as I had never really shown much interest in it. Not much else was said. I brought it up a time or two more and he said that he was going to start working on it, as in getting a ring and that he needed time to plan something special. So, I have began to think that he is just blowing it off by wanting to move away. He has a child that is now 16 that has always lived with his grandma. I have no children. He lives rent FREE in a rental that he inherited from his dad. But he wants to buy a very expensive,over the top house an hr. 1/2 away. I just don't see the use in spending all that money when you don't need to and leaving me behind. I'm being selfish, I guess. I want him to save his money and stay in our town for us. I live with my parents to help them out, and be with my mom, she is sick with Cancer. I don't want to have to travel so far away from my parents. But he's asking me to support his dreams! I'm just scared it's not going to work out too good.
  3. Wiseman2 Thank you! No, no marriages for either of us but we have talked about it 3 or so months ago. I had never really wanted to get married before but now I felt we were stronger and secure. He told me that he had no idea that I wanted to get married as I had never really took interest in it. He said that he was going to start working on it, as in getting a ring and that it needed to be special how he asked me. So, what he is talking about doing now doesn't add up to marriage. He has a child that is now 16 that has always lived with his grandma. I have no children. He lives rent FREE in a rental that he inherited from his dad. But he wants to buy a very expensive, over the top house an hr. 1/2 away. I live with my parents to help them out, my mom is sick. He says he wants me to support his dreams! I told him that I don't want to stay so far away from my parents. I just don't see us being able to spend much time together anymore and it can definitely hinder our relationship.
  4. I'm turning 40 in a month, my bf is 42. We live 5 mins. from eachother and have been together off/on for nearly 14 yrs. We have officially been back together for about a yr. and 7 months. Things have been good between us. But, he has recently made plans to quit his job and open up a vape shop about an hour 1/2 away. Also, he now is actively looking to purchase a home there too and move to be close to his shop! I've been asking him not to but he is going to do it no matter WHAT! He tells me that everything is going to be o.k. between us and that he is stressed out and just needs my support more than anything. He doesn't really seem to care how I feel about it and that I'm also going through alot reguarding my moms health. I want him in my life and would really like him to be closer than over an hr. away. I feel like our relationship will move backwards, not forwards. Should I leave him and let him go live his dreams?
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