Aishin86

ok .... hehe thanks for that I really appreciate it I'll keep u guys informed on what happens

aww jeez hahaha now what to do hahaah But do ya reckon she's got any feelings for me???....coz that's all I need to know at the moment hahahaha before I decide on anything

sweet... sounds good thanks guys I'll keep u informed on what happens

well... I been trying to come up with subtle ways to approach her about it... coz.. I don't really like taking things too quickly... --.-- I was thinking of asking her to the movies etc...something like that ... but the other problem is.. -.- her mum is one of the managers in our department -.- euff hahaha.... they say nothing stands in the way of love but hahahaha...gawd... what to do??...i'm in a real dilemma .. coz u see.... she's serbian/croatian..... i'm a japanese/korean But regardless of whether she does or doesn't have feelings for me... even a friend can ask someone to watch a movie...or have dinner together ... maybe have coffee...right?? hmmmm waddya reckon????

hahaha... yeh.. I thought about the rebound.... but I came out of a bad breakup like her not that long ago hahaha ....but I decided...even if i am a rebound... i'm 21... i've only been in one serious relationship... for ..2-3 years.. which ended not that long ago as well....similar scenario to her my ex left me for another guy -.- her ex left her for another girl ...but.. does it seem ... she has feelings for me???..... or am I imagining it coz she's drop dead gorgeous???.... I wanna just ask her out.... but if it is just my imagination...it'll make things awkward at work -.-

Hi I'll try and make this detailed but brief ..I'm 21... I work in Insurance .. a week ago.. me and this other girl at work whom prior to this incident I'd never spoken to before.. were included in an email to a mutual friend.. I replied to the email... with her included on it... and when I replied... she sent me a direct email... ever since then.. for the past week... we've been emailing each other...literally..like....every 2 minutes.. She came out of a bad breakup recently...with someone I know at work.. at first.. I thought she was just being friendly...which from experience...is what alot of girls do Then.. as we continued to email each other.. she gave me her msn email address...and since then...we've been chatting online after work...as well as emailing each other (every 2 minutes...literally) at work.. now.. I know...that i'm a person...who jumps to conclusions very very quickly.. so one time...when she came online...I didn't msg her... just to see what she'd do... she sent me nudges and spammed me with msgs ... (to my obvious delight ) now...the problem is.... I'm trying to work out what she's thinking...coz prior to this.... even if we walked past each other at work... we'd never even as much as say 'Hi' to each other...maybe we'd nod.. as for the records.....she is drop dead gorgeous... which confuses me even more...coz normally... I would think I'm out of her league .. except.. I'm really starting to like this girl... What do I do??!!

Hi.. I posted on the forum before... basically, me and my gf have been having these little arguments recently.. itz usually over nothing, but it just keeps going on and on and I'm getting really frustrated.. basically... there was this sleezebag at our chuch.. who broke up with his gf, and went from girl to girl at our church..and tried to pull his moves on each one. He asked my gf to watch a movie with him..and I told her I don't want her to go..but she went anyways.. I let it go.. then..my gf's cuzin.. asked me if I could help his gf (who I've known for ...2 years?? ) with her university essay.. I helped her before, and she got 95% for it.. so basically.. I told my gf.. I had to leave church early to go help her.. and she started getting all moody.. and... I mean... her cuzin's gf is like....3-4 years older than me and the 4 of us all know each other.. so I didn't see the big deal.. then..while i was helping her..my gf kept calling me..then hung up without giving me a chance to talk.. and it just kept going on.. so I said to her today.. politely.. didn't raise my voice.. just in a nice calm way.. just asked 'whatz wrong??.. ' and she explained that she didn't like her cuzin's gf etc.. that she was using me to do her h/w and so on.. so i said to her 'ok.. if it makes u feel uncomfortable... I won't help her anymore.. I just want you to be happy' and then... she told me she was gonna go help the sleezebag from b4.. (who watched a movie with her).. this coming Friday with his job.. and i was like '...don't u have lectures and tutorials at skool this friday??' and she's like 'i'm not gonna go, I'm gonna help him'... and i said to her 'you know i don't like that guy .. why do you keeping hanging around him' then she started rambling on about how I don't give her the freedom to meet other ppl, and that I always over-react etc so I said to her 'you know.... you get pissed off at me, for helping your cuzin's gf with her h/w..... why can't I even be uncomfortable with the fact, that you're skipping school just to help this sleezebag??'... and basically she just left and went home... i mean...I'm open to any replies, whether i really am over-reacting. etc my gf... got pissed off at me, coz i watched a movie with her sister and sisters best friend before...who by the way... is 7 years older than me... my gf didn't talk to me for 2 weeks coz of that... arr just so frustrating..

You know, you have every right to feel uneasy... but I think what you should understand is that, you and your bf have a great relationship going, and you should learn to trust him. If your worst fears do come true, and that he cheats on you with his ex, that I don't believe he is a guy worth dating. I've been dating my gf for nearly a year.. and you sort of remind me of her. Basically, I love her to the point that, she is the centre of my world, and that is where I want to keep her. If your bf love you that much, he should feel the way I feel, and not let any other girl interfere with your relationship regardless of how attractive or how close they USED to be.

Well... you know, it is wrong of her to neglect you.. but still, if that's where she wants it to go, you should give her the space she needs. Make other friends.. but don't forget, you should be there for her when she needs you most.

Hello hehehe I've gotten all types of gifts for my gf.. I've been going out with her for nearly a year hehe... Firstly... a year's diary.... containing entries of how I felt about her each day... how much I missed her etc Flowers... it's good not to give them too often.. otherwise they'll become meaningless. I remember.. my gf's older sister burst into tears when her bf gave her flowers....because it was such a rare thing Expensive jewellery can bring a smile on any girl's face.... but again.. keep it for rare occasions... Take her clothes shopping.. and buy her nice clothes... If your a whizz with computers and graphics, you could make her a movie containing all the people that are special to her

I agree with atomic.. Liking someone, is all about sex. Even if it IS with her friends, you should still be able to spend quality time with your girl and get to know her more intimately.. I have to admit....my relationship started off with a bang haha with long make-out sessions...but my gf was a girl.. that I spent over a year trying to get to know her better than I already did...and now...we can just tell by looking at each other...what we're thinking... what we wanna do... when somethings wrong hahaha even when we have to go to the toilet.. lol so yeh... take your time, be patient, but don't go too slow hehe coz that could ruin everything.. anytimes All the Best

Hi.. I had asthma for 5 years before.. and yes it affected any workout I did... however, swimming didn't seem to affect my asthma whatsoever.. so I just started swimming and I don't know if it was BECAUSE of the swimming... but my asthma slowly just disappeared by itself

Nervous.. maybe you were tired... if it's not physical might be mental.. but if you're really worried, you should see a doctor... if your going impotent, you should get it fixed

Well.. I think you have to understand that not all guys are the same. Maybe some guys are more experienced than others.. but it's not something you should hold against him. If it doesn't feel good tell him. And he'll try something else.

Well.. to be honest, you're showing signs of pregnancy... but to make sure, like you said it could just be gas. Safest bet is to goto the doctor and have urine pregnancy test

hehehe thinking about it again.. I think you'll do fine even without classes. You don't have to worry about feeling foolish hahaha if you're brave enough to post this kinda stuff on a forum, I'm sure you'll do fine.

Turn on : Great personality, someone with similar interests, and also someone is a great counselor.. Turn off : A women who is all talk but contradicts what she says by the way she acts

very nice poem. ummm A title could be 'My Last Goodbye' ??? Great poem

Honestly...no offence, but you can't really help guys like your boyfriend till they hit rock bottom. He comes to you to seek sympathy, but he also has too much pride to show that he's vulnerable. I think whatz best is for you both to have some cool off time. Because from what I've read, he's spending time at your place, and that's making him slack off. He needs to find himself a job and get his life back on track. Alternatively, you could have an intervention. Get his closest friends, and confront him. However that could backfire as he might become upset you told his friends about his problems......so yeh..cool off periods the best solution I reckon

Ok.. there's a friend of mine that is in serious need of help. I've tried giving her all the advice I could, but her bf is causing alot of problems. As a guy, she wanted to know my perspective of her problems. Her bf from what she says and from what I've seen and heard first hand from him, does not seem to understand and does not even try to understand her situation at any time. For example, our youth group from church was going to go on a camp. So naturally, I asked her bf (who doesn't go to our church) to come along, because he had nothing to do during the holidays. He politely declined, and my friend was disappointed as she wanted her boyfriend to go. She asked him again and again, but his response was that he didn't want to go where he didn't belong?? and he told her to just go and have fun and that they'd meet when she came back. So our youth group headed off to our campsite... which was a 2 hour drive from Sydney. I was sitting next to her when her bf called...and I could hear every word he said. She picked up and said 'HEY!!!' because obviously she was pleased to be able to talk to her bf. His first words were 'Are you that happy that I'm not there? You don't even care that I'm by myself, what kind of a girlfriend are you'... and she was speechless.. That was a few months ago..and ever since they've been arguing.. about little things.. and.. her bf continues to look for things to argue with her about. So I said to her 'he's not treating you right... he treats you like trash...so just break up with him..and see what his reaction is'. She took my advice, and the moment she told him she wanted to break up, he clung on, telling her that he'd change. I told her to give him another chance and see how things went. But he didn't change and now they're arguing more than ever. Again i told her to break up with him. But this time, he went crazy screaming that he'd kill himself literally if she broke up with him, and asked her if she wanted that on her conscience........ as a guy... I gotta say her bf is creeping her out and that he's a psycho.. what should I tell her to do???

I agree with Tigris, I think generally, you guys are doing great. BUT there is also a little problem that might arise. If you take things a little too slowly, she may end up seeing you as nothing more than a great close friend. If you don't want that to happen, I think one day you should just call her out, and surprise her with flowers or something special. And take her somewhere nice to tell her how you feel. However, I think the mum is interfering a little too much. If you drive, than give her a lift home to stop the mum interrupting. =) All the best

You know.. if you're not comfortable with doing a lap dance you should tell your fiancee. I don't really believe that you should have to go through the process of learning to lap dance just to satisfy his sexual urges. If you're willing to go through with the whole thing though, regardless of how foolish you think you will look, if he loves you, he'll appreciate everything second u dance and strip in fronta him

wow, that's quite a long post you made. hehe took me a while to read it. Well there's 2 things you can really do.. Just continue on, forget about the guy and do what you have to do. Finish university and so on. I don't believe you should have to turn your whole life around just becoz of the one guy. And as for your friends, if they have the nerve to talk behind your back like that, then they're not worth being friends with. Live life normally, and eventually you'll meet better friends and a better guy. This is all natural stuff you go through. And as for becoming pyschotic, if you continue to try thinking about what your ex is doing or let what he says get on your nerves, then yes, it will drive even the most sane person a little pyschotic in the head. If he wants to live or sleep with a drugged up gay couple, then that is his problem. Alternatively, you could also live your life, and attempt to seek help for your ex. Rehab centres??...but preferabbly, if I were in your shoes, I'd just forget him and start over.

Hi. I'm a smoker too.. well.. I'm in the process of quitting. I've tried literally everything.. but what I'm trying now seems to work the best. It worked for a friend of mine. Basically... u stay home... and only go out. for work, etc.. and basically avoid contact with smoker friends until your confident that you've quit. Also good to let your friends know in advance that you're quitting. And try to avoid stressful situations

You know, I went through similar stuff with my girlfriend. She'd say something is bothering her...but wouldn't tell me. The only thing u can really do is sit down and talk to her.. with girls like your girlfriend...while you're talking, always keep a smile on your face. And just say 'If you ever have something on your mind u wanna talk about, I'll be here for you'... The rest is up to how patient you want to be. If she doesn't tell u stuff, just ignore it and give her more space. Itz hard and may seem unfair, but itz the easiest way to get over it if u guys wanna stay together