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Just thought I’d update on the situation currently. Saturday night she called me out of the blue because she said she felt ready to speak to me, said it was nice to hear my voice etc and finally reached out and opened up about what’s been going on, what’s happening etc. which was so good to hear and I’m happy she finally felt ready to reach out. She’s been reaching out and chatting to me daily since, she seems to be doing a bit better at the moment (still has her moments but to be expected) I had a job interview for a promotion yesterday and I dropped her a text saying that it went really well and they practically offered me the job, she was over the moon and it really cheered her up 🙂 She apologised for me having to deal with this which I rubbished, saying that’s not because I have to, I’m supporting and going through this with her because I love and care about her and wouldn’t change her for anything. She thanked me for all my support

I understand what you mean about checking in with her every day. All I mean by this is a simple text in the afternoon along the lines of ‘How are you doing today? Thinking of you’ and then no contact at all unless she reaches out to me. of course I need to listen to directly when she talks to me. She knows this, I’ve told her before that I’ll be by her side and give whatever support she needs, if she needs space, she’ll get space, if she needs an ear to listen, I’m all ears. As for what I mentioned about me worrying about the relationship, to be honest I know that I’m being stupid. I already asked her when she was talking to me first about that if we’ll be okay because of this and her reply was ‘Of course we will’ so I know I’m just getting in my hand and overthinking. Maybe I’m reaching out for both of us to be honest. I want her to be reminded that I’m still here by checking in just once a day but yes maybe you’re right, my own reassurance too. However, her mental state is what really matters to me right now. I know we’re all allowed to be selfish but she is what matters now to me.

Indeed. I’m currently using this time to research as much as possible about her mental illness so I can fully understand how she feels and so I can be best equipped to support her the way she needs to be

Thank you for your advice. She’s actually been able to keep her mobile so we are actually able to text and what not. However, I’m understanding that she doesn’t want to say much at the moment but like I said to her, when she is ready to talk to me, she knows I’m here and I think that’s all that matters. I’ll be beside her throughout the whole journey.

So my partner struggles with mental health and has done for most of her life, she has been particularly low the last few weeks and just yesterday she told me that she was in hospital and had been sectioned for having a big break down. She doesn’t want to see any of her family or myself at the moment and just wants to be alone. She’s incredibly distant with me at the moment. Which I knew she would be, when she’s feeling low she likes some space, and that’s what I’m giving her. I told her that I’ll be on the other side for her when she gets out (she’s sectioned for up to 28 days) and that I won’t force her to talk about anything but that I’d check in with her each day to see how she’s doing but other than that, she has all the space she needs and when she’s ready to come to me or talk to me then I’ll be there. I know that her being distant with me is nothing personal towards me, it’s just how she likes to deal with things and I know she’ll come to me when she’s ready to. However I can’t help but getting into my own head and being scared that this may cause us to break up, I don’t want her to think she’s a burden on me and that I don’t deserve to go through this or be with someone like this, how do I best make it known that she is not a burden on me and that I know I can’t fix her illness but that I’ll be beside her the whole journey to recovery, not because I have to be but because I love her and want to be.