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  1. Thank you for your response. I'm 29 and he's 31 - I'd say his expectations are very realistic, he has the appropriate qualifications and there are plenty of opportunities for this role abroad so it's just something I'm struggling to accept. He has stated this from the start, and believe me I'm not angry at all, he's been completely honest with me. It's just we've had such a lovely relationship, easily the best I've ever had and I'm really struggling to imagine how I'm going to be happy without him and it's all come to the surface now he's started applying for roles. From my end the thing I find heartbreaking is the fact that he wants to move to a country he's never been to, has no connection with at all and lose me in the process. I know this sounds incredibly selfish of me, I just wish I was enough and now I feel used, because I feel like if he loved me he'd have just ended it because I'm not what he wants. 😪
  2. Honestly, I was in this situation with my current partner. We'd been dating for about two and a half months, seeing each other all the time and I'd even met his family. Then it occurred to me one day when I was talking about him that I referred to him as 'my boyfriend.' So next time we were together I just blurted it out, asked if he thought we were heading towards being 'boyfriend/girlfriend' and he said as far as he was concerned we were together. Don't overthink, just ask. Always better to know where you stand
  3. I'm so incredibly sorry. This must be devastating for you and my heart goes out to you. Do you see a way past this? Because if you don't, as hard as it is the best thing for you to do is walk away. He's completely disregarded yours and your babies health and hasn't even got the decency to admit to it which frankly is the very least you deserve. All the best. x
  4. Hello all, I'm a first time poster but feel I have nowhere else to turn. I have been in a relationship with my partner for nearly two years. We have a very loving and caring relationship however there is a big problem that we face and that is that my partner wants to move abroad. I completely understand that he has envisioned working abroad for a very long time, however we met and got together about 6/7 months before covid - understandably this put a halt to any big life plans and being completely honest I've let it slip to the back of my mind. However, things are opening up again and he's applying for roles abroad. We have discussed this and I don't want to go as I'm approaching 30 and I would like to buy a house, settle down and have children. He wants the same things in that respect but he's envisioned this happening abroad. I know the obvious answer - we can't have a relationship in two different locations. However, I've never felt a love like this. I love him with all of my heart and I just can't bring myself to end the relationship even though what I'm currently going through now is destroying me. What do I do? Do I end it now, even though he's not actually leaving, because at some point he will? Do I hope that somehow when he gets there he'll realise the grass isn't always greener and come back? Has anyone else ever been through this? Appreciate any thoughts and advice.
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