Devor

What do you think? Is it okay for a married man to tell another woman she is beautiful? Would most wives be upset if they found out their husband did this?

I did a similar thing, but even worse, I don't even know if he got the message because I sent it on Skype! I avoided this person for a while, then saw him when I couldn't avoid him any longer and pretended like nothing happened. To this day I still don't know if he's seen the message! It worked out okay for me. So I would suggest you just play it light, as in, "I was drunk" and leave it at that. If the other person wants to explore it more, they can ask questions and you can go from there. (You would probably get a vibe of how they are feeling at that point, which can indicate the best way to respond.)

So, I’m basically in love with someone but it’s a complicated situation. He has been very flirty with me at various times. Being dense, I just wasn’t sure if I was reading him right, so I mostly didn’t respond very much. At various times he put a hand on my knee, started hugging me, rubbed my back (during a hug), caressed my hand gently (when comforting me), gave me lots of compliments, told me he enjoys my company, touched my cheek lovingly, etc. etc. At the time I was confused, but when I put that all together I think he likes me. Don’t you think?? I mean, is there any chance I am wrong? But then again, his behavior can be very confusing. He runs a little hot and cold. Also, he is my medical doctor. Yes, crazy, I know, but I am telling the truth about his behavior towards me. One time, he even said, “you can be my tour guide” when he goes to a city where I used to live...! But since then he has cooled it down a little. I can’t tell if he’s thought better of things (because he is my doctor) or if he has no idea how I feel about him. He gives me butterflies. I think about him ALL of the time. I just can't figure out how to get past doctor-patient boundaries. I mean, I have no way to even contact him. And I'm not absolutely certain he is interested. What do you think he is intending with me? Could he just be acting like this with all of his female patients? What response is he looking for? I told him I could help him plan his trip (hint hint) but I haven’t heard from him since that (the last time I saw him his staff had summoned me to the office for a special exam I supposedly qualified for). Anyway, where the HECK can I go from here? Why can’t I be better at flirting? I think I am blocked because I am so shy if I like someone. Like, terribly, terribly shy. By the way, this situation has been going on like this for several years. It's really hard on me to feel these feelings so strongly but to feel like there's no easy way to act on them. (I usually wait for guys to ask ME out but obviously he can't so I'm just not sure what to do.)