As the title suggests, my gf(F22/M19) has some sort of commitment issues per say. She has done things which I would consider a bit extreme or unnecessary to hide our relationship from her friends and family. She refrains from posting me on any social media and refers to me as her “friend” whenever her friends or family ask who I am. In contrast, my close friends and family know who she is and how long we’ve been together. Whenever I bring this up she just changes the topic or tells me to get over it.
Going back to the unnecessary things she’s done to hide me, she’ll often lie about who/what/where if it involves me and she does this absolutely stupid thing where she’ll change her phone wallpaper constantly so that when I’m with her it’s us, but when she's out and about it’ll be something else like her dog so that even by chance nobody finds out about me. Same goes for any comments I might make on social media, she’ll just delete them so nobody can see what I wrote on her posts.
Every time I have brought this issue up she has just refrained from talking about it, and makes it seem like it’s not that big of a deal. But I don’t get why she needs to hide me and do all this childish stuff that I’ve mentioned. I mean we’re adults about to graduate college and this entire scenario makes it seem like a high school drama.
On my side I feel she’s either embarrassed or ashamed of me to tell people we’re together, or she’s talking to other people and wants to make sure they don’t stop if they know she’s committed. Either way, I feel unappreciated and neglected often and feel like our entire relationship is just me putting in a lot more effort and care than her. Is it common for people to keep their SO so hidden from their circle?