Hi
Ive been with my girlfriend for 17 months now. However, after 5 months she had to leave for work. for 10 months she was not living in the same city as me - of which 6 months we were not in the same country. she returned 2 months ago I am currently wondering if its still what i want, for just one reason - that i dont know if its love. Why dont i know? because im not sure i know what love is.
Ive seen people say that love is about caring about your partner, doing anything to make them happy. If this is true, then i do love her. I care about her feelings so much, it hurts me when i think she is not happy. I also feel like im myself with her, very comfortable.
However i have alway thought love is that intense emotional feeling you get for people that you just cant explain, that isnt just lust. If this is love then im not sure i do love her, because those feeling are few and far between and not always as strong as i would like- for example only resurfaceing when i meet her after not seeing for a week. And people say that if you have to ask yourself then you are not in love.
I recently realised i had this dilema when, in the heat of the moment, a week ago i said i loved her. but this has triggered this confursion as to whether i really do.
We have booked a holiday for a couple of months from now, and i feel scared that its not right to carry on and go away when im not sure about things. Ive never kept anything from her, and i dont want to start now - but how can i tell her all this without wrecking things and sowing the seeds of doubt in her mind.
I need 2 answers before i go truly mad...
Is it love? And should i know if it is by now or not, having spent only 7 months in the same city.
should i discuss it with her? she is on holiday and i see her again in a week.
thanks
