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Nope lol. From what I know about her, she will most likely text me after she landed back in Toronto.

Thank you for all of your concerns. I am going to meet her in person then tell her it's over. I am glad that I only wasted 7 months of my life instead of giving her half of my assets in divorce.

Hey LootieTootie, we have dinner together this coming Saturday, so I am gonna ask her and tell her how I felt. If she tells me everything and tells me that she didn't see another guy or sleep with a random dude, then I might give her a second chance if she can promise on few things like 1) not be disrespectful 2) make me her priority

she talked about Hawaii for a while now. She was planning on going to Hawaii until COVID happened in 2020

Hey Wiseman2, I don't think there's an on and off relationship with a guy in Hawaii because we are both Canadian. However, that doesn't mean she is not seeing someone right now in Hawaii.

nope. the last time she messaged me was Friday and so far, no message.

Hey Wiseman2, So, her last relationship was last summer. They had a fight during a vacation and ended it. That's when she and I connected on the app last October. Honestly, she was never in a long term relationship and surprised that all my previous relationships lasted more than a year

So, she landed a new job, but I guess she decided to take a vacation before starting a new role. Also, we are exclusive and we both deleted the dating app. We are both single and she said she wants to be official once we have our first argument/fight to see how I handle disagreement. She dated someone for a year who seemed perfect until they had the first fight

Thanks for the reply. I asked her if she wanted to go vacation 2 weeks ago then she said "yes" and she asked where I was thinking. She also warned me that she might be looking for a career change, so may not be possible.

Hey there, I (M29) have been dating a girl (F30) for 7 months now. Recently, we got very close and we both like each other. She sees me as someone to marry and raise a family. A week ago, she quit her law firm and moved to another one while I was planning a vacation. Because of her career change, I decided to put away our vacation plan. On last Wednesday, I messaged her, but she didn't reply, so I figured she is busy, because most lawyers are. On Friday, when I asked he if she's okay, she messaged me telling me that" Me: "Hey, XXX Is everything okay?" Her: "I am on vacation. Booked a last minute flight. At Hawaii" I was hurt that she didn't tell me, but now I am thinking that she has no right to tell me, because we aren't official yet. I told her that the fact that she went on a vacation without telling me upsets me. What do you guys think? Thanks in advance

Hey spinstermanquee No... I don't think there's a huge cultural difference. I am East Asian who immigrated to Canada as a kid (12 years old) She was born in Canada, but also East Asian. We both have similar family dynamics, but she seems to be closer to her parents than I am. I speak 3 languages, but she only speaks English. She seems to be under pressure to settle down. She is lawyer and I did a career change in 2020 from being a white collar at a tech company to being an aircraft maintenance engineer.

She told me that he first impression of me were very positive. I seem to possess high EQ, and over time, she finds me logical, not emotional nor possess temper. I am polite and well mannered. As for her, I like her because she has similar lifestyle as I do (the way we carry ourselves, dress code, and level of education...), she is independent, stands her value, not easily offended, career-driven, and attractive.

Before asking the folks here another question, update on the previous topic: She and I went on a date and we talked about what I meant as "becoming more serious" and I told her that it meant being exclusive and she seemed to be understanding of that. She had thought that I wanted to be official lol. This triggered another question about my finance and if I am ready, which kinda made me question my ability and if her expectation is too high or I am just not good enough to get married.... I (M29) have been dating a girl (F30) and she's dead set on marrying and raising a kid as she is in that age. She's also getting a lot of pressure from her parents to settle down. Eventually, the question of finance came up and I told her that I own a $700k (initial purchase) condo in downtown (now valued at $900k) , a car, and $30,000 saved up for a wedding and a new car. However she seems to have her eyes set on buying a townhouse in a suburb and seems like what I achieved so far isn't up to her standards.... I told her that I am more than happy to sell my place to upgrade, but it seems that I have to do all the heavy lifting in terms of finance. Furthermore, she doesn't seem financially ready at all based on how much she tells me that she needs a raise, her choices of accessories and clothes, and her student loan (she went to university for bachelors, master, and law school). Is she crazy to want more? Aren't I good enough in terms of finance?

Then, should I text her to correct what I meant to say was being exclusive?

Thanks for replies, guys. I guess my fault was that I didn't define what "moving into something serious" meant as it could mean a lot of things. I was thinking staying exclusive. Yep, it's the same girl I asked about the Christmas gift. I got her a small cake for her to enjoy and went well. She also bought me a gift for a new year. I guess I will wait, but it seems that she ahs pulled back based on her texting.